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Is the old rule that you don't wear red and pink together still true? The corset I'm wearing on Halloween has pink accents, and I wanted to wear a bold red lipstick. Is that a horrible combination idea?

I didn't know that that was a thing. I think it's totally fine to do.

It is Halloween so I don't think most people will care. :P

What? Since when do red and pink not go together? Wear your outfit, you'll look fine.

It's good, especially for Halloween. If it was, like, some kind of formal dinner you'd probably want to make sure they were both cool or warm reds/pinks, but it'd still be okay. And that your skin tone matched the cool/warm... and I just like colors, okay...

Edited 2017-10-25 23:43 (UTC)

Go for it cause 1. Its Halloween so its for fun anyway and 2. All beauty rules have exceptions or even don't need to be followed at all. Its all subjective.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I wouldn't wear a pink shirt with red pants, though.

I wouldn't either. Going mostly black, just with some pink accents. Going as a vampire, so want to do the pale face, red lips thing.

I didn't even know that was a thing, but I think you'll be fine. :)

It's never been a hard and fast rule. Pink and red can look awful together if you're not very careful in your matching, so large areas of both are not a good combination, but having pink accents on your corset and red lipstick on - presumably - your face should look fine.

I am making chicken salad tomorrow and want to make some homemade sandwich rolls. Right now I am thinking of making challah dough and just shaping that into rolls. But was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for a soft bread roll recipe.

These are very nice. :)

http://bakingbites.com/2008/04/soft-yogurt-sandwich-rolls/

Ohh! These look good. Have you made them yourself?

Re: Looking for a sandwich roll recipe!

(Anonymous) - 2017-10-26 00:54 (UTC) - Expand

That recipe looks awesome. Thanks for sharing. :)

I am interviewing for a job tomorrow and I'm not excited for it. It is for a job I already know I'm not going to like, but I applied because my family is pushing me towards it. They see dollar signs, but they never consider my own strengths and weaknesses. It involves a lot of talking to people (I have social anxiety), and there are long periods of sitting around not doing anything (you cannot browse online, read a book, check your phone, knit, whatever; just sit there). To me, I feel that it would waste a lot of my time, especially time that could be used on creative projects I'm working on. And I know the job would burn me out mentally, so working on things when I get home from work also seems unlikely. The company itself seems very uptight, so I'm already dreading the prospect of "dressing up." I'm the type that is entirely comfortable in retail uniforms, feeling that "professional attire" draws more attention to myself than I'm comfortable with.

What's worse, the company is very familiar with my family and is likely to pull strings "as a favor" to them. If I get a job, I want it to be on my own merit, not because the hiring managers pity me or simply know my family. At the moment I am unemployed, but if I'll be frank, I'm comfortable with it.

Advice is appreciated. I know I'm counting chickens before they hatch, but I needed to vent.

Is getting a job a priority right now? If it isn't just tell work up the courage to tell them no. If it is, take the job but look for other jobs while there.

You are not obligated to take any job they think they are helping you get. Ever.

But if this is a situation where you are still living with them and depending on them for a lot, you should probably be looking for employment "on your own merit" anyway.

I am living with them, but we are financially sound. I have offered multiple times that I can do my own grocery shopping, help with paying bills, etc. They insist on doing everything themselves, aside from car insurance payments and help with the dog's grooming bill. I do work around the house that I'm capable of doing, ie. housework, cooking, errand-running, painting, pretty much everything bar yardwork since I'm physically unable to.

The town we live in is very small, and my degree (computer science) is practically worthless here. I'd move, but a number of factors prevent me from doing so. I apply to multiple jobs, but 9 times out of 10 I am overqualified. If I'm not overqualified, there's a good chance I don't get the job because one particular estranged family member has negative connections to the company that we don't find out about until later (involved in an affair, stole money from them, was fired because of bad conduct or drug use, etc.). It doesn't matter that the family member is the black sheep, companies are still wary to hire anyone related to them because they think we'll be the same way.

The last job I had was great, but it was temporary and there wasn't a way to continue it (summer season only).

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(Anonymous) - 2017-10-26 00:30 (UTC) - Expand

First of all, with regards to taking the job: I think it's entirely a question of how much you need money. Set everything else aside. Do you need the money enough to make the shittiness worth it? Is it worth it if it's just for a limited period of time and you can spend some time saving? Or do you not need the money? Those are the questions that I think you should focus on.

Second: in general, I don't think it's useful to worry about using connections to get a job. I think the job market and the economy generally are stupid, irrational, insane, unjustifiable, exploitative, random. I don't think that jobholding is really much of a measure of worth at all. I think it generally is valid to take advantage of a broken-ass, ridiculous system in situations like this. The system is screwing you over just as much anyway.

I sympathize, but I see a few issues here.

* You need a job, right?
* But you can't get a job with the degree you have, so arguably ANY job is better than nothing since it would get you closer to financial independence and possibly relocating.
* Unless your creative projects earn you a decent amount of money (i.e. not just beer money) they are not as important as finding gainful employment, sorry. That's what weekends and free time are for.
* CS is one of the few jobs where it's possible to telecommute. How hard have you been pursuing this online?

Honestly, it sounds like you've already talked yourself out of this for Reasons and not all of them are very sound. If you're happy with your current situation, then great. But it doesn't sound like you are? I mean... do you have a better plan that you're actively working on? Because if not:

1) get a job
2) save your money
3) move out/relocate to a better job market to pursue the career you REALLY want

sounds like a reasonable plan.

I wrote a long comment and then realized you said it all better than I was going to. So, +1 to all of this.

I don't want to sound like an asshole, but OP, you sound really young here. I'm really wondering what kind of job you expect to get elsewhere, because most employers aren't okay with you browsing online or knitting at work, even if you're technically 'doing nothing'. Thinking negatively about a well-paying job because you won't have as much time for your personal creative projects? Because you'll be expected to dress professionally? Because you want to get a job "on your own merit"?

You know what doesn't leave time for creative projects? Working shitty jobs and overtime because you floundered around unemployed looking for a fun/easy job and passed up opportunities to get a GOOD job.

And I sympathize about the social anxiety. I have to talk to people a lot at work and it sucks. But that's not a good enough reason to pass up good money, imo/ime. Talking to lots of people is a requirement at a lot of jobs.

Okay OP, I'm going to agree that you sound very young so I'm going to try and be diplomatic here. I totally get how frustrating it is when family pushes you to do stuff you don't want to do. However. I think it's a little... naive... to criticize family for "seeing dollar signs" because yes, one of the primary goals of employment is to earn money. In another comment, you say "we are financially sound". That's "we" as in, your family? Let's be straight here: you mean your mom and dad are financially sound, but you specifically have no income, right? So you are not financially sound. You're living off your parents, which might feel very cushy now but it cannot last forever. You should not count on it lasting forever, and you need to prepare for the day when that necessarily comes to an end, because this is part of growing up and adulthood.

Social anxiety can and should be managed. It should not be an excuse for why you can't talk to people in a professional setting and therefore need to avoid any career that involves talking to people, because most jobs require that. If you feel that it is so severe you truly cannot work, then it's time to talk to your doctor, find a good therapist, etc. and address the issue directly.

Long periods of boredom are par for the course in many jobs. It is NOT a waste of your time because you're getting paid, presumably. Very few jobs are one thrill after another, or 8-10 hours of incredibly soul-satisfying work. That's just how it is. Ditto "dressing up". That's not an unusual requirement of the professional world, it's standard and you should definitely get used to it - or at least, not use it as an excuse for why you can't get a job.

Be honest with yourself: how much time are you spending on your creative projects right now? Do they really require 8-10 hours a day to the point where you can't spare time to find a job? Do they earn you any money? OP, many people enjoy creative projects when they have the time and many people would love to be able to do nothing else but creative projects. Unfortunately, you generally can't pay your rent and buy food and clothing with creative projects, which is why you need to prioritize employment and not use "but my creative projects!" as an excuse for why you can't work. You worry about being too burned out to be creative. That's a valid concern. But keep in mind that figuring out your work/life balance is also part of growing up and adulthood and cannot (and should not!) be avoided by remaining unemployed.

"At the moment I am unemployed, but if I'll be frank, I'm comfortable with it."

And here's where I'll be blunt: You're far too comfortable with it. You're making a lot of weak excuses for why you need to stay in the safe and comfortable rut you're living in. Unfortunately, this is really going to hurt you in the long run because you're basically preventing yourself from gaining independence from your parents.

Reading between the lines, I'd say your family isn't being unreasonable. They're trying to motivate you to do what you ought to be doing for yourself. They do this because they know that you need a job that pays enough for you to live on. They know that the longer you go post-graduation without landing a job (even a not-that-great job) the worse it will look on your resume. If you want to get them off your back AND avoid this job, you need to show them you're actively working on job hunting and will find a job that is to your taste, on your own. Then you need to DO IT. No more excuses, no more debates about how come you need to stay home and avoid the world. Please do this for yourself.

Good luck, OP.

You need a standing ovation for this post.

Good luck from me too OP. I felt like you at one time. It's difficult, awkward and may push you out of a comfort zone, but it is likely to be good in the long run.

Agree with everything here but wanted to emphasize the last bit. I've been training to be an interviewer/hiring decision maker at my job. One of the big things they note as a "flag" to look at on someone's resume? Long periods of unemployment with no explanation.

And I can tell you that "I didn't get a job because I felt comfortable letting my family take care of me so I could knit" would put your resume immediately at the bottom of the pile. On the floor.

same anon

(Anonymous) - 2017-10-26 19:06 (UTC) - Expand

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