[ SECRET POST #3956 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3956 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Gustaf, Bill and Alexander Skarsgård]


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(the 2007 adaptation of Jane Austen's Mansfield Park)


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05.
[Intelligence]


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06.
[Hellblade: Senua's Sacrifice]


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07.
[Yuri on Ice]


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08.
[Star Trek Voyager]


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09.
[#Blessed]


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10.
[Criminal Minds]


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11. https://i.imgur.com/bPBlIrK.png
[linked for illustrated porn, giant dick/bulging stomach stuff]








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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Re: question for sex-havers

[cbrachyrhynchos]

I feel a lot of pressure "on top" to:

1. not orgasm before it's time
2. have an orgasm before an unspecified time limit, because if you don't it's taken as a sign that you're not into your partner
3. control the pace so my partner has orgasms even though their pace is usually not my preferred pace
4. deal with the weird gender triggers that might come up.

So given a choice, I generally prefer other activities.

Re: question for sex-havers

[(Anonymous)]

"deal with the weird gender triggers that might come up."

For you or the other person? What do you mean here?

Re: question for sex-havers

[cbrachyrhynchos]

A depressing number of people have survived abuse of different types. And I suspect from now on I'm going to stick to queer partners, so many of us are going to have some gender socialization baggage as well.

I'm not going to describe specific triggers, but when I'm already ambivalent about being a penetrating partner for reasons related to my uncertain gender identity, getting into the typical pornographic dirty-talk banter based on a gendered "stud/bitch" dichotomy is likely to throw me right out of the mood.

EDIT: Basically, some people like that kind of gender roleplay during sex, and some of us are really uncomfortable with it.

Re: question for sex-havers

[(Anonymous)]

op!anon

Thank you for sharing that. Since I don't have any sexual experience, I had no idea about this sort of thing. It does sound complicated to navigate.
I think it's interesting (and kind of depressing) how society seems to push this narrative of people with dicks always being gung-ho about shoving them wherever they can, or that being the penetrating one is "better" or "stronger". It's very damaging, I think.

Re: question for sex-havers

[(Anonymous)]

And if you don't have a dick, it kinda sucks that you have no choice but to be considered passive/submissive/"worse" or whatever.