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Re: Pet Advice

[(Anonymous)]

I can't give you more specific advice without knowing the species, but I can say from handling a lot of animals that aren't hundreds of years into breeding for domestic suitability that you are very likely to not find them cuddly.

You might see pets like yours being cuddled by other people and think "hey I want that", but what you see may not be the norm, depending on what species you have.

Some species who are dependent on their parents early in life will form strong attachments to caregivers of any species, but most animals that aren't birds can tell that you are not their parent and will seek more independence from you with age.

If your animal is usually part of a social species, then don't expect that human company will fill the void of a real companion. If you have a bird, some of them respond well to introducing a mirror for them to talk to "another" bird. Others don't.

If you have something like a rabbit or guinea pig, some of them just hate people being in their territory or are fearful of being handled. They're cute and fluffy and you would think cuddly, but not always.

Ferrets are just dicks. They're pretty amusing and can be fun, but they're dicks. They aren't cage all day pets like hamsters. They need lots of activity and mental stimulation. It is possible to keep one rather than a pair, but they need attention, not necessarily affection.

Reptiles are just sort of there. Expect that they won't be very active or entertaining. They may not like being handled.

If you used a reputable breeder you should be able to contact them for information and advice. They may offer to take the animal back and rehome it.

I wouldn't rehome it to a family where it would get more interaction. You sound like you have a pet that doesn't enjoy attention or being handled, and more of that would likely be very stressful.

It could be that it was abused or mishandled, or not socialised appropriately by the breeder.
It could also be that you just bought a pet that doesn't seek out people for company. You can find them in any breed, and as much as you may want to believe the cute stories you read as a kid about how you can tame any animal with love and food, some of them have no interest.

I think a better indication of stress or boredom in your pet than lack of friendliness would be repetitive behaviours or loss of interest in necessary activities (grinding teeth, chewing hard surfaces - beyond what might be necessary if you have a pet that needs that, pacing, stress moulting, pulling out hair or feathers, biting at their own limbs - if you've already treated environment and animal for infestations of lice/fleas, scratching, making more noise, loss of appetite or interest in food, no desire to move around environment for unusually prolonged periods).

It's easy to be discouraged if you have an idea of what your pet will be and it doesn't meet those expectations, but a less active or social pet than the one you expected is not a clear sign of depression.

If you can offer them more stimulation in their environment, provide more variety in where their cage or playpen is located, introduce them to new foods or toys or bedding types, then you might notice more curiosity and interest from them, but they can't show a whole lot of excitement for things they see every day.

I'd definitely encourage you to talk to other owners of this type of pet, because you may find that what you hear when someone is trying to sell you a thing is different to what you hear from people who already have it. Experiences and satisfaction may vary from what you have seen previously if you have looked for "cute pictures of cuddly ----" or on websites that tell you what to buy. Even people who have blogs about owning their own cute pet probably don't post pictures of them cleaning up poo or paying vet bills or getting bitten by fluffy.

It is normal to believe that you are the worst pet owner ever when you don't feel confident or experienced.