[ SECRET POST #3971 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3971 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

It’s spoilers and content warnings all the way down.




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01. [SPOILERS for Stranger Things Season 2]
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02. [SPOILERS for Great British Bake Off]



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03. [SPOILERS for Stranger Things]



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04. [SPOILERS for Stranger Things]



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05. [WARNING for discussion of sexual harassment]



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06. [WARNING for discussion of rape]



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07. [WARNING for discussion of sex abuse / sex rp / underage?]

















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I did a lot of NC-17 RPing as a teenager, including as a young teen. I lied about my age and I'm sure at least some of my RP partners were probably significantly older. It was something I thought back to recently actually, mostly because Purity Culture seems a lot more concerned with A. Fictional underage characters, and B. Adults writing fictional sex that minors might find. There's very little pearl clutching about adults consuming adult content made by minors and making sure the people writing/drawing smut are old enough. (I guess because uwu soft bois and gurls don't ever do that? *coughcough* )

As long as you never took advantage of their age to be creepy/abusive you shouldn't feel guilty. Like if they ever contact you and ask for an apology you can give it, but I wouldn't seek them out and make them feel weird over something they've likely not really thought about. Or heck, something they might be proud of.

And pushing boundaries and being abusive/controlling is nasty no matter what age your partner is. So if that's what you were doing and that's what you feel guilty about, then... stop doing that in general no matter who you're with?

[erinptah]

Agreed about not seeking them out. If you see this person posting somewhere about how it happened and in retrospect it was upsetting, then you could contact them with an apology, but don't do it out of nowhere.

If they do feel scarred and violated by the experience but aren't posting about it, it's very likely they want to put the whole thing behind them and get some distance from it. So if you contact them it'll destroy that distance, and might make them feel pressured to forgive you, or at least tell some nice lies to make you feel better. None of which is going to be good for them.

And if it was a good experience, something they had fun with and don't feel damaged by...which is true in a lot of cases...then if you show up and start apologizing, that'll make them feel self-conscious about it. They might even wonder if their previous uncomplicated enjoyment means there's something wrong with them. You could introduce a level of discomfort that wasn't there to begin with.

tl;dr don't make things weird for this person. Just focus on being mindful and non-creepy in your current/future Internet friendships.

[(Anonymous)]

Ya, I agree.

To the OP, I hope you don't do it again...but it doesn't seem like a situation that should have you seek the other party out.