[ SECRET POST #3998 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3998 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[(Anonymous)]

No. My sister has Downs Syndrome. It's a condition that's "disappearing" worldwide because of abortion. I have strong feelings about that. When she was born, it wasn't legal to abort, but the docs said she'd be a vegetable and they should put her in a home and forget her. Frankly, I find both suggestions appalling. There have been HUGE strides in what's possible for DS people to experience and do, and life quality, education, all of it. Maybe not perfect yet, but I bet we'd be farther along with a lot of developmentally challenged issues (and people) if the conversation wasn't constantly revolving around whether they deserve to even be born. TBH not gonna look at replies to this; it's an emotional topic for me and I know someone will be an asshole. But yeah, it hurts...

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[dani_phantasma]

*hugs for you and your sister*

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[comma_chameleon]

Frankly, I find both suggestions appalling.

I agree that 'put someone in a home and forget about them' is a horrendous attitude regardless of the situation (people who that shit to their parents/etc too are awful), but I don't think it's appalling to step back and think, "Do I have the time, money, and emotional fortitude to look after someone for the rest of their natural life, someone who may or may not be in pain constantly, who may or may not have any quality of life outside what I can afford to give them." and decide, "No, that's not something I'm prepared or able to do."

Giving your all to another person for a lifetime is a massive commitment and it's better (in my opinion) to not bring that person into a world of subpar care, resentment, lovelessness, etc.

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[otakugal15]

This. All of this.

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[(Anonymous)]

Exactly this.

Re: Would you abort if you knew your kid would have a severe developmental disability?

[(Anonymous)]

+10000000

DA

[(Anonymous)]

Okay but that shouldn't only be a question for people like me and this anon's sister. And it actually kind of is. No one really steps back and asks this for non-disabled kids. If they do, they're a rarity.

Re: DA

[(Anonymous)]

People ask themselves if they have the time, money, and emotional and psychological capacity to give any potential offspring decent quality of life all the time. That's a major reason that many, many people choose to delay having children, or have only one child where the norm is having more, or to not have children at all.

The reason they don't consider a worst-case scenario where those kids wind up in chronic pain or unable to ever care for themselves is that lacking any indicators of heritable conditions, that's not a useful hypothetical to explore.