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⌈ Secret Post #4022 ⌋

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Re: Things you straight up do not get.

[soldatsasha]

Yeah I think this is a pretty good explanation.

For me, romantic love and familial/platonic love are two different emotions. It's hard to describe the differences between them, but the differences exist and can't just be chalked up to "one involves sex and the other doesn't." (Which is an explanation I've seen a lot, but it doesn't even make sense, since people can feel sexual attraction to people they aren't in love with, and people can be in love with people they aren't sexually attracted to. And both of those scenarios are so common that your average person wouldn't find them surprising at all.)

I hate to say it because I don't want to sound like I'm shitting on friendships, but for me and I think for most people, romantic love is way more intense and generally more "important" because of that. Like you said, the priority levels are different.

I guess for me the biggest difference would be, with a friend my brain is saying "I like this person we should keep them around" and with romantic love my brain is making a fucking commitment and going "RIDE OR DIE MOTHERFUCKER".

Re: Things you straight up do not get.

[(Anonymous)]

NYART (actually I'm the anon below) and I would say it's not actually that romantic love is more intense or more important for me, I have friends I consider equally as important to me as my romantic partner. And I'm sure for some people, they care about friends more than romantic partners, and other people care about romantic partners more than friends - so there isn't really a given or set priority of importance for everyone.

I would say personally I experience it like, to a friend I might go 'I care deeply about you!' and to a romantic partner I would go 'I care deeply about having you in my life forever!' Which is a lot more... intertwined. I wouldn't ask something like that of a friend, but I would for someone I was romantically involved with.