[ SECRET POST #4029 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4029 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I don't mind if characters have kids and are happy about it, but yeah, it's really irritating when they have a sudden personality shift out of nowhere. It wouldn't be so bad if it were addressed, like "I never wanted kids, but now that I'm pregnant, I'm happy about it. Is that weird? I feel so conflicted!"

In my IRL experience though, people who want kids don't always talk about it, so I can get the impression someone doesn't want them and then suddenly they are having them on purpose. Turns out they did want them, they just weren't BABIES BABIES BABIES! all the time. Like when my cousin was in grad school and was complaining about the doctor at student health asking her if she was really, really sure she wanted to stay on birth control. I figured she must not want kids. Actually, she just didn't want to get pregnant before she finished her doctorate, and she had a kid soon after.

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[(Anonymous)]

In my IRL experience though, people who want kids don't always talk about it, so I can get the impression someone doesn't want them and then suddenly they are having them on purpose. Turns out they did want them, they just weren't BABIES BABIES BABIES! all the time.

This is always such a stumbling block for me (specifically with fiction, not RL), because when something isn't established early on about a character I tend to default to having a headcanon in which the character is the same as me. So if a character doesn't mention wanting kids, I default to thinking they don't really want them, because I don't really want kids. Same with siblings. If siblings aren't mentioned within at least the first season, I default to thinking that character is an only child, because I'm an only child. And that headcanon ends up solidifying in my mind, and then if the writers contradict it down the line, it always feels really wrong to me, even though logically I know that it's my fault for basing my headcanon on a presumption.