[ SECRET POST #4039 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4039 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Stupid Requirements

[(Anonymous)]

Disregard if I'm wrong, but... you're Filipino, yes? Jfc, your parents are crappy and unsupportive even by Asian parenting standards. I'm Chinese and my parents would absolutely shell out for a second land line or whatever it took if it would be helpful for my career, and it's not like they're rich. Mind you, I wouldn't necessarily call them emotionally warm or supportive either, but one thing they totally get is that relatively small expenditures to help your career goals are a must, no question. I'm really sorry.

Re: Stupid Requirements

[philstar22]

Nope. American and very white. Lived in the Philippines for 10 years though. My parents are missionaries. Well, when they aren't in the US. Back right now mainly because I need a place to live until I find a job. So they've been shelling out money for me for two and a half years now. And they don't exactly make a ton of money. So I get it.

My family is complicated. I love them and yet have a lot of issues with them. And I'm not good with conflict and I don't like making people unhappy (Particularly people I care about). So it is difficult. But all families have their issues I think.

Re: Stupid Requirements

[(Anonymous)]

one thing they totally get is that relatively small expenditures to help your career goals are a must, no question

Why is it a must? Are you also a grown-ass adult, like philstar is? If you need help, it's absolutely fine to ask your parents to provide it, but if they can't afford it or don't want to provide it, do realize that you and your parents are fellow adults now and they are within their rights to say no. I'm actually so embarrassed for you, my god.

Re: Stupid Requirements

[(Anonymous)]

In a ton of non-white immigrant cultures it’s not frowned on for adult children to live with their parents until they get married or even after, and it’s understood that everyone chips in what they can, so if the parents have jobs and the kid doesn’t, maybe the kid(s) do all the household chores and shopping and cooking and laundry so their parents can work and afford something like another phone line or an old fax machine or whatever to help their kid get a good job. I’m white and your reaction seems extreme. It’s not like a fax machine or second landline is equivalent to, idk, a new car.

Re: Stupid Requirements

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

I definitely believe all members of a household must pitch in wherever they can and that doing chores can be a form of "earning your keep," but as someone who lives alone, grocery shops and cooks rather than eating out, and doesn't use a housekeeping service... I don't see the relationship between doing chores and increasing household income. If someone came and did all my chores for me for free, how does that get me more money when I wasn't paying anyone to do it in the first place and household chores have never prevented me from working a full time job?

I moved back in with my parents for a few months between grad school and landing my first Real Adult Job, and I did most of the chores. This did nothing to increase my parents income, since before I moved in they were working full time, and after I moved in they were still working full time, and their salaries did not increase just because I moved back in with them. They were not self-employed and while maybe overtime was a thing at my mother's job (city administration) it was not at my father's (university professor/scientist), so being able to work more hours wasn't guaranteed to lead to more money.

You could argue that extra free time can be used for some work-from-home side-gig opportunity, but that begs the question why the adult child isn't doing that while they're home during the day instead of expecting the parents to do that when they get home from a full work day.