[ SECRET POST #4042 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4042 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Louisa May Alcott, Eight Cousins]


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03.
[Jojo's Bizarre Adventure]


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04.
[Mickey Rourke (and Kim Basinger even though the secret's not about her)]


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05.
[Tommy Wiseau and Greg Sestero]


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06.
[Welcome to the Ballroom]


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07.
[Crazy Ex Girlfriend]











Notes:

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I hate this too, especially if part of the reason the woman doesn't want babies is because she doesn't want to sacrifice her time, body, and/or career for it. The man will inevitably say that he'll do double parental duty, but the post-baby episodes will still have the husband being a manchild and his wife trying to juggle everything at once while nagging her husband to grow up.

[(Anonymous)]

I really dislike those scenarios because they remind me too much of the real life examples I've seen in friends and family.

PSA: If your boyfriend/husband/partner claims he'll do double parental duty or pick up the slack after you have a baby, ask yourself: does he competently pull his own weight in domestic chores NOW? And if so, why not?

I'm not saying people never change. But the fact is, someone who hasn't been raised to do their fair share of domestic household chores 1) usually has a poor grasp of just how much that entails and therefore isn't equipped to do double duty even in emergencies 2) will get frustrated and resentful about the "extra" they have to do, even if it's only the exact same crap you do all day, every day. The arrival of a baby doesn't turn someone who's never cleaned a toilet or done their own laundry or cooked a meal into Super Parent. Take a hard look at who you date, or you'll end up like my poor bff whose husband's idea of looking after the kids is letting them tear apart the house while his eyes are glued to his laptop for three hours, then congratulating himself on "babysitting" his own damn kids, smh.

[(Anonymous)]

This, I've never seen the 'he wants kids, she doesn't' trope on tv where it didn't have the guy blathering on about how he'd always pictured himself coaching baseball or whatever; but also blithely assuming the woman will be the one staying at home for the first eleventy years.

Like, obviously if someone doesn't want kids, they don't want kids; but it comes across like male writers can't possibly get their heads around the idea of a guy saying 'Well, does it change your mind at all if I were the one to do the gruntwork?'