There's a happy medium I think, I don't think people shipping m/m ships because they like the idea of them or think it's fun is an issue at all, that's what fandom is for so go for it.

Shippers gonna ship and all that and as a shipper of pretty much everything I can tell you that m/f shippers are exactly the same in regards to 'these two are awesome fiends, they'd make a fun ship'. Same for femslash shippers too.

Plus considering how much media has m+m friendships being The Most Important it's not really surprising that shippers get drawn to that and build something off of it, you're literally being spoonfed shipper fuel so ofc people are gonna eat it up.

But the people that cry 'queerbaiting' because a pair of same-sex friends are close or friendly towards each other(hell they don't even have to be friendly, just interact or stand next to each other and it'll be called 'baiting') do annoy me because you know what? Two guys being friends isn't bait, it's normal human interaction and it's fine if you ship it but it is on your own head to know that it's not likely to actually happen.

(And don't get me started on the people who cry 'queerbait' because their pet ship isn't canon when the canon in question has actual LGBT characters and pairs in it, that shit is fucking infuriating and transparent as hell).

There is also something to be said for how mainstream media writes m+m, f+f and m+f friendships and how they are treated differently as far as potential romantic entanglements go, and frankly mainstream media has far more of an issue letting m+f pairs be friends at all.

The whole thing is a lot more complicated than 'this is always bad' tbh.