[ SECRET POST #4043 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #4043 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.



__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.











Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 37 secrets from Secret Submission Post #579.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

I agree, but it's harder these days to have a low-budget wedding when a) there's so much societal pressure to have a "normal" wedding, i.e. an expensive one and b) even when you try to have a budget wedding, there are so many hidden costs and just the word "wedding" adds 0s to price tags.

Like unless you get your dress at Target and just have a barbecue in your backyard, it's really tough to keep it cheap. Venues are expensive. If you want to invite all your family and friends, you need somewhere you can fit them all. You're generally expected then to serve them dinner (for a nice dinner, expect catering to easily run $70 a plate) and have some kind of dance or other nice reception. That, plus an actual wedding dress (you can get one for under $500, but that's a bargain and $500 is still $500), decorations (flowers are fucking expensive), nice pictures (because photos are the only thing that is actually going to last forever here, so that's probably worth investing in a proper photographer instead of smartphones)... an expensive wedding isn't always a case of bridezillas going nuts.

Of course you can pick and choose and hunt for deals. But planning weddings is a lot of work and stressful as fuck, eventually it seems a lot of couples just throw their hands up and go "fuck it" and load up those credit cards.

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

If you choose to cave in to "societal pressure" to have a big wedding, then sure it's expensive. But it's not that hard to NOT cave. Lots of people don't have expensive weddings.

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on what you count as expensive. If you're doing the aforementioned backyard barbecue wedding + Target dress, sure, you can do it on the cheap.

If you want to get married in a venue you have to rent and plan to host a dinner/dance, then you are going to spend a couple grand at least. Not all weddings are $20,000+, but even cheaper weddings are going to be somewhat expensive. But then, I also don't think it's particularly weird to put a little money into hosting a nice party for a very special event.

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

Definitely. I've been to small weddings, budget weddings, backyard weddings, and weddings that were just a reception/party (my high school best friend didn't have a wedding ceremony - just went down to the courthouse - and then her "wedding" was a casual backyard party) but ALL those weddings cost a surprising chunk of money. Food costs money. If the event is even partially catered, that will cost you. If you want to buy a bunch of food and prepare it yourself, that will cost you. Professional wedding cake? hat will definitely cost you, even if it's small and simple. Yes, venues are not cheap, even outdoor spaces. My cousin got married on the lawn of the corporate building where my aunt works because my aunt was able to finagle free use of the space. They couldn't afford anything else.

I absolutely reccomend spending money on a decent photographer. Don't hire a friend unless they can show you a portfolio. My parents' wedding photographer was my grandparents' neighbor who was "good with a camera" and their wedding photos are shit. My aunt did the "Everyone just take lots of photos and send them to me!" thing and her wedding photos are also shit.

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

I can’t even imagine spending $20k on a wedding unless my hypothetical husband wanted to invite 100+ people. I can think of maybe 15-20 people I’d invite, and that’s a high estimate. I’d probably do a backyard wedding and a beach potluck reception and make my own dress. If I was gonna spend $20k on anything wedding related it’d be the honeymoon, but even that seems wasteful.

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

I'm always jealous of those people who say "My friend Susan is a florist so she offered to do all the flowers for free as a wedding gift! My friend Andy is a DJ so he offered to bring his equipment and be our DJ for free as a wedding gift!" and so on. My cousin's wedding was like that (although they still spent a bunch of money on it because they invited a lot of people) and I swear she must have spent several years going around purposefully making friends with people who could become free wedding vendors. I don't know any florists. I have a friend who works as a psychologist for the state prison system, so... yay?

Re: Wedding craziness

[(Anonymous)]

I have a friend who works as a psychologist for the state prison system, so... yay?

Free guests for your wedding!