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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2018-02-08 06:29 pm

[ SECRET POST #4054 ]


⌈ Secret Post #4054 ⌋

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[Spirited Away]


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[Death Comes to Pemberley]


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[The Detective, season 1]


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(Anonymous) 2018-02-09 02:30 am (UTC)(link)
Her parents pretty much blame me for this happening. I'm disabled and unemployed so I don't help her enough with the finances and it's taken a toll on her emotionally, I know. But most days, I'm doing all I can do just to keep it together. But I do feel like I'm to blame here. I just wish my mom would call me back and maybe I'd stop feeling so alone.

(Anonymous) 2018-02-09 03:00 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry, that is awful of them. Please know it's not your fault. You can't have been expected to cure her (that's what the medical professionals are for) and your disability certainly is not the cause of her illness. I hope your mom call you back soon.

(Anonymous) 2018-02-09 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry anon, that sounds incredibly hard. You are not to blame for your wife's mental illness, and it's incredibly unfair of her parents to put that on you on top of the emotional trauma and stress you're already facing.

You say there's financial stress in your relationship. Perhaps, once you've got over the initial shock of this, you could take your mind off things by focusing on small actions you could do to relieve stress on the relationship. Things like writing up a new budget or researching what aid either of you might be eligible for could help you feel like your helping her and the relationship even when you can't help her mental health.

Good luck to you both.