[ SECRET POST #4066 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4066 ⌋

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Comments

[dahli]

Back in my day people also claimed to have Aspergers/Autism. It's kinda the same but this time is with binary/non-binary stuff.

[(Anonymous)]

But, like

a lot of people did, and do, actually have autism

and I think the same is true on the other side of the analogy

[(Anonymous)]

Not as many people as claimed to have it. And I think the same is true on the other side of the analogy.

[dahli]

I meant to say that putting up on your bio that you had autism/Asperger's was pretty common back in the day, and that that same behavior s being repeated but with binary/non-binary stuff.

But re-reading my comment I did put my foot in my mouth.

[(Anonymous)]

I never bought that theory. Fandom's unironically autistic, like the kind that a doctor diagnosis you with. Think it's more that there's dicks out there who are also autistic than fakers.

[dahli]

I think the internet gives you a sense of detachment from the stuff you say online so I think that's also a huge factor, since there is no one offline who can hold you accountable for what you say online or even as anonymous. It's a blessing and a curse.

[(Anonymous)]

A... Lot of people did have undiagnosed autism, tho, because the way it presents in women isn't the same as it presents in men and that was and still kinda is being severely overlooked.

Jesus fuck, just say you're uncomfortable with people experimenting with their gender.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe dahli is uncomfortable with people diagnosing themselves without consulting a medical professional. I know I am.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT—many years ago, before it was popular to declare yourself autistic online, my mother came home excitedly waving an article clipped from a psychology journal and told me “look, I found you!” It was an article on Asperger’s syndrome, which didn’t matter nearly as much as the knowledge that here was, so far as preteen me was concerned, scientific proof I was a nutcase, like my classmates were always saying and my teachers said in more polite ways.

I ripped the article to shreds while having an epic screaming meltdown, and that was the end of that. By my mid-twenties I was ready to concede my mom had had a point; I did fit most all the criteria, and some of the management strategies helped me control myself better. Less than a year ago, after my mom passed away, I was talking to her brother, who’s a psychologist, although autism isn’t his area of expertise. I mentioned wondering if I might be autistic, and he said “I never thought of that. I just assumed it was brain damage from your being born so premature.”

So I haven’t bothered to get diagnosed, since I don’t need the depressing realization that I’m not autistic, just suffering from decades old oxygen deprivation, which isn’t treatable even to the paltry extent that autism is. But it’s obvious to pretty much everyone that there’s something wrong with me.

Doctors were still telling my family I’d likely be a vegetable when I was three. Instead I started reading everything I could get my hands on, but still walked into things, tripped over nothing, randomly screamed and cried, rhythmically smacked my hands into my sides, zoned out and wouldn’t respond to other people, and sometimes bit people until I was 12 or so. And I still miss social cues by miles, obsess over random stuff, and occasionally melt down. Plus I can’t make eye-contact, friends, or phone calls, and my driving instructor told my parents I’d never drive after one lesson.

[(Anonymous)]

You do realise that autism is primarily a description for a set of behaviours and thinking styles with a whole raft of possible causes and you could easily be autistic BECAUSE brain-injured? I'm honestly not seeing why you would find that depressing. Autism isn't really treatable, it's about managing its impact, just as it is with brain injury. So if the autism self-management strategies help, why not use them?

[dahli]

I'm just going to copy-paste my comment above and say "I meant to say that putting up on your bio that you had autism/Asperger's was pretty common back in the day, and that that same behavior is being repeated but with binary/non-binary stuff but I put my foot in my mouth".