[ SECRET POST #4068 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4068 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Altered Carbon, Poe]


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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

Isn't that just, like... having a sense of perspective?

[(Anonymous)]

I suppose, but I get where OP is coming from. Like, I always enjoy the clothes I wear, but I HATE whatever I was wearing three years ago, and know I'll feel the same way in three years to come. I can like what I like and try and act 'my best' now, but I guess you just gotta accept it's gonna feel cringe as heck on the other side.

[(Anonymous)]

There's perspective and then there's being so hyperaware of the possibility for future embarrassment that you miss out on things you'd enjoy. It's one thing to be aware that you might puke on a rollercoaster and to prepare accordingly by not eating an entire pizza before you go on one, and it's another to be so scared you might puke on a rollercoaster that you never go on one, even though you know it's something you'll enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know, that depends. On the one hand, it's a good idea to always have a sense of perspective about one's fandoms. But on the other hand, it's a shame to let future worries spoil one's fun and ability to have fun in the present.

[soldatsasha]

imo no? I think it's actually the opposite, it suggests a lack of perspective.

It's one thing to feel regret or cringe over your past behavior when that behavior was actually damaging to yourself or others. Like, if OP is sending out hate mail to rival shippers or yiffing in public or if everyone irl hates them bc they're such an OTT weeaboo.

But cringing about general fannish activity? Reasonable people don't fall out of love with Things (whether those Things are fandoms, music genres, fashions, movies, or whatever) and immediately switch to being embarrassed or horrified by their behavior. If you replace "Fandom Activity" with anything else, OP's secret sounds fucking crazy.

"The anticipation of how I'm inevitably going to perceive my current hobby of bicycle riding in a few years' time is...."

Is having a fun hobby really that horrible? I've been in a lot of "embarrassing" fandoms over the years, and I've done my fair share of squeeing over stupid shit. I don't regret it. I'm not ashamed of it. Even for stuff I no longer ship or stan, I'm not horrified at the thought that I used to like tropey yaoi stories or terrible High School AUs.

[(Anonymous)]

Mmm. I guess if it's about just being in fandom, I agree that cringing about it isn't good, or a reasonable result of perspective.

I guess I read it as being more about the degree of investment and seriousness? In which case I think there's something to be said for having a bit of perspective and not taking that with deadly seriousness. But I think you're probably reading the secret more correctly.

[(Anonymous)]

If you can do that, can't you extrapolate to a few years after that, when you'll be looking back regretting you were so hesitant and didn't enjoy yourself while you could?

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, the way teenagers don't always enjoy what they did as kids because they're too close to it and feel embarrassed, but how as an adult I no feel embarrassed about enjoying the stuff I loved in childhood.

[(Anonymous)]

I guess I can understand that about fandom drama, like getting worked up over ships or character bashing or whatever. Whenever I feel myself getting too worked up in fandom I remember I'll eventually move on and then I'll have to live with myself knowing what I said/did to others for something I don't even care about anymore. I rarely come close to getting into drama, but if I do that holds me back. This isn't really a fandom thing though, arguing over stupid things is always embarrassing later.

And I suppose I can understand getting better at art or fic and disliking your older work. I remember going back to re-read old faves, stuff that wasn't even mine, and cringing at my taste.

But in general, if it made me happy and didn't hurt anyone, why would I be embarrassed? I wouldn't judge another person for it, so why judge myself.

[(Anonymous)]

God, this is so me. When I look back at the amount of stuff I used to churn out for my old fandoms, and how openly I'd gush about my favourite pairings/kinks/tropes, share crazy specific headcanons and silly art etc. I cringe so hard.

I recently got into a new fandom and I love it but I'm too nervous to reblog all the shippy art on my Tumblr or rec ALL the filthy fics on DW because I want to look like I have some self control!

[(Anonymous)]

but like...you should rec that shit...or make a list /master list of posts, letting people know to message you if they want the dirty stuff (what fandom btw?) . That way you can feel a bit better.

[(Anonymous)]

no ragerts