[ SECRET POST #4078 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4078 ⌋

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Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

How do my fellow F!S'ers deal with it?
I'm having a difficult time. I have been told I am facially unattractive and at times, people have tried to set me up with ugly or unattractive dates and I just turn it down every time. It's very depressing. I have never had any man fall in love with me. I am very lonely. Why the hell do others think I want an ugly man?

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

As a fellow uggo, it’s probably more that they don’t know many attractive people who are into ugly people, and that for some people, physical attraction isn’t the biggest draw in a relationship, and they figure that at least some ugly people are okay with dating other ugly people. I have idiosincratic notions of what’s attractive, but I certainly don’t feel like I’m entitled to the attraction of attractive people.

I get lonely sometimes, but most of the time it’s not because “oh no no man will want me.” And no man has ever fallen in love with me either, but it’s not like I’ve spent a lot of time trying to attract men, since the reactions I get just for existing are bad enough.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't assume that people I've never met will live up to some standard of attractiveness that exists only in my head. I don't assume that my friends will know any preferences I have unless I tell them.

I've been set up with people I didn't click with romantically. I try to make the best of it and get to know them a bit. I sometimes even get a new friend out of it.

I don't expect anyone to fall madly in love with me at first sight and overlook the fact that I'm awkward or that my teeth aren't straight. I don't expect to fall for anyone that way either. I hope I meet someone I want to get to know better. Maybe we enjoy each other's company and a relationship comes out of that.

I probably wouldn't set you up with my more attractive friends either if you turned down my "ugly" friends. My friends deserve better that to only be wanted because they're good looking.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

OP here.

If I went out with one of your unattractive friends and they had a shitty personality I wouldn't want them either.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

OP again.

I also don't consider myself ugly, it's everyone else that does.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

I guess I just try to take it one day at a time.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[greghousesgf]

I'm so lousy looking I don't even get set up with other lousy looking people, I can't help you much. I wouldn't even mind going with a guy who didn't look that great as long as he had a good personality but even lousy looking guys will always want hot women. I've only had two boyfriends and one was crazy and abusive so I'm frankly glad I don't have to deal with his crap anymore and the other one was very sweet but he turned out to be gay (we're still very good friends).

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't want a lousy looking man but yes, the problem is even they want pretty women and then if they actually somehow get them, who is left for the unattractive women?

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[ginainthekingsroad]

I'm roughly average looking-- I can clean up nice or be thought very dowdy, depending on effort; I usually strive for the middle. My problem is I have... not quite resting bitch face, but resting serious face. And I am a pretty serious person. I've often been told my intellect is intimidating and my demeanor not approachable. When in reality I'm just really shy around new people/social situations.

Unsurprisingly, I get the "You'd be pretty if you smiled" line a lot. The emphasis on if, because normal unsmiling me isn't being considered pretty.

Re: Being considered unattractive.

[(Anonymous)]

OP here.

I've been called unattractive, ugly, homely, plain, funny looking, so so, average. I have also been told that I look better when I smile but now my two top front teeth have an uneven wide gap again which is very visible from my right profile and looking at me dead on (my teeth constantly shift) and I can't afford braces and a retainer on my own. I also have an asymmetrical face shape. My jaw/cheekbones aren't even.