[ SECRET POST #4100 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4100 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Emily Blunt/John Krasinski]


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03.
[Grace and Frankie]


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04.
[rupauls drag race]


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05.
[Donald Trump Jr./Aubrey O'Day of Danity Kane]


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06.
[Knight Squad, Sage and Buttercup]


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07.
[Kristin Ortega from Altered Carbon
Rosa Diaz from Brooklyn Nine-Nine
Amy Santiago from Brooklyn Nine-Nine]


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08.
[Final Fantasy XIII Trilogy]













Notes:

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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Has anyone else ever gone from basically having no social life to having a core group of friends? I did, and it's great, but sometimes I realize I have no idea how one does this... friend group thing. The only ones I've been in IRL was a middle school clique (which ended as well as can be expected for a trio of middle schoolers) and online social groups, which also didn't always end well, TBH. <--- Actually, that worries me a bit, but I was also younger when I was in these fandom groups, and also, I think online friend groups can be a bit harder to maintain. (For one thing, it's so hard to prioritize. You can't really say "I can't do such and such, I have to meet Becky and Sam in the chatroom" the way you can "I can't do such and such, I have to meet Becky and Sam for lunch.")

Not really looking for advice, just wondering if that's happened for anyone else.

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

"Sorry, I have a prior commitment."
If they ask what, "I promised to do a thing with some friends."
If they ask what after that, then they're being nosy.

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - Yeah, but sometimes it's not that simple. For instance, my friends with spouses would have last minute plans they'd put together when they got home, so they couldn't chat. Or with me, when I was still living at home, if I was in the middle of a serious conversation and one of my parents wanted to talk, I had to leave the conversation.

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. What happened was I either became good friends with a far more extroverted person who attracted a group of friends, or I joined some club or group and hanging out together for club reasons led to hanging out together for purely social reasons. These were entirely accidents on my part and I've never been able to make it happen on purpose (I've been trying for years at this point).

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I had a weird moment the other day when I had this thought that I have never intentionally made a single friend or tried to make a person be my friend. Ever.

On the one hand, I totally get why my mother was so pushy about trying to set me up with her friend's kids. I completely lack the impulse to attach to people. Am I broken?

On the other hand, how the fuck did I accidentally make this many friends? I am not even a little bit sure about how to be a friend, but I have all these people who like me for some reason? I have about six entirely unrelated social groupings of people. How. The. Fuck.

I usually don't even discover that I've made another one until it's been a couple of years and they're still there.

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's pretty normal for friendship to be a gradual process. In my experience people don't generally consciously court friends like you'd court a romantic partner, nor do they feel the need to announce the instant they cross the threshold into friendship á la Step Brothers.

Re: Question Thread

[(Anonymous)]

This, I just sort of... realized one day that all the people I knew, I leeched acquaintanceship off of my roommate, and since we all get along anyway, I'm fine with that. I'm sure if I tried to go out and meet people myself, I could do it, but I'm good with the people I know and that's fine.