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Confessions, secrets, unpopular opinions, family recipes you want to share, whatever

I recently came across the tumblr of some person that I find plain ridiculous.
They're the most stereotypical tumblr ftm - meaning plenty self descriptors as a ~gay softboi uwu~, the only attempt at "transition" a pastel coloured pixie cut, several sets of pronouns and totally so gay despite allegedly being in a poly relationship with a chick and and a guy etc. etc.

So far so standard - I'm just rolling my eyes at those people at most by now because they're so dime a dozen on tumblr. But what makes this one ridiculous is how they list "doing drag" under hobbies and keep gushing about how great they pass as female.

Seriously? You are proud that you pass as a convincing chick when you have a completely unaltered feminine biologically female body? Come on.

I'm going to guess they were very young.

My secret is that I automatically assume any ftm and nb people on tumblr to be special snowflakes in the unfortunate fandom environment where your opinions only count if you're Oppressed (tm). I don't think they're lying and I don't think they're claiming these identities just to be heard. But I'm 80% sure that if my fifteen year old self had been on tumblr today, she'd be one of them because I wasn't very good at being a fifteen year old girl as society demanded I be.

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LOL. Chances are this person will be embarrassed about their behavior ten years from now and they'll realize how badly they wanted to fit in and feel special. It happens to most young people, this is just the tumbler version.

Ugh, typical Tumblr.

I like my job okay, but I wish I enjoyed it more. I kinda fell into it and there are lots of good days, but then there are days that make me question what the hell I'm doing there and, since I'm the youngest, I do most of the work for less pay and that really grinds my gears.

I think that next year in the spring or summer (if everything goes well between now and then) I'm gonna ask my qt3.14 to marry me.

I hope things go great for both of you then, and good luck.

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Awwww!
Best wishes for you both :)

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Congratulations and best wishes! :)

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I can’t stand people who make everything about their mental health problems. A girl at the craft fair today is like that and all of us in that part of the tent suffered for being near her. “I like that bracelet.” “I just needed something to do with my hands after a PTSD incident.” Cue customer running away. I hope she heals eventually, I just hate being around anyone like that and hate how they colour others’ perceptions about everyone with the same or even any mental health issue. Plus the whole thing about losing a ton of sales and not even breaking even for the first time in three years.

I agree with this so hard. I sympathize with them (I was in a psychic ward cause of depression and anxiety three years ago, so it's not like I'm completely without empathy) but some people are really... idk over the top?
It's the only thing they ever talk about (+ post on facebook/instagram about).
I especially hate it when they start ranting about how neurotypicals should never become psychatrists cause they'd ~never understand.

Bonus points if they're self diagnosed or can't accept a diagnosis several professionals have given them because it doesn't fit the one they decided on themselves.

People like that don't realize that just because something is a big important part of their life, it doesn't mean everyone else is equally obsessed. They don't realize how uber focused on it, how their whole world revolves around it, and how weird and off putting that is to people who aren't like that.

So basically it's like fandom but for mental health.

I always say that I don't hate children and... I don't. I just kind of dislike the majority of them? I know it's unfair. I know I've been a child myself. I don't know why it is.
Working in a grocery store probably doesn't help. Screaming children who demand stuff (For the record: I don't actually mind screaming babies. They just have that one mean of showing a demand.) and then them getting it in the end seriously annoys me (yes, I'm equally annoyed with the parent in that instand).
I also don't find most of them cute at any age (not that I think they're ugly or anything... I just don't get the urge to coo aover them like I'd do over cute animals).

Fore the record part 2: I'm still always nice to them and would never hurt one, cause know it sucks when adults are randomly mean to kids? Like... don't do that.

It's just... I kind of feel weird about not automatically liking them? (Ofc there are kids I like) I know the whole "women have a motherly instict" thing is largely bullshit but... I still feel the twinge of society disapproving.

(I obviously don't want any kids myself, a fact lots of people won't believe till I hit menopause and then they'll probably start talking about adoption)

No I'm the same tbh. (Although I feel no guilt at not liking them much).

I don't super hate kids but I really don't like them much, and don't want to be around them.

I won't be an unnecessary dick to kids around me though, they're just young and my irritation isn't their fault, but I will find a way to get away as soon as I can.

People can have kids all they want, I just don't want to be near them.

I don't really hate kids, what I really hate is the pressure to like and even take care of kids that you have nothing to do with. I'd obviously never be mean to a kid or anything like that, but I also don't feel obligated to interact with them just because I walk past them in a grocery store or am stuck in a waiting room with them. But if you don't want to be around kids, you're seen as an evil hag on the level of Agatha Trunchbull. I've even seen people claiming that it's literally traumatizing to kids when a random stranger in a grocery store brushes them off or avoids them.

It's just one of society's more insidious methods of trying to force women back into the kitchen IMO.

Don't feel weird about that, I'm the same. I mostly dislike it when people want to leave me alone with kids for any reason, no I don't want to look after these children I don't like them or know what I"m doing.

I'm a woman in my late 20s, and I have never been pressured by anyone to have kids. Literally nobody in my family or anyone else has ever brought it up to me. And my extended family's pretty big on the marriage-and-kids thing (mom had four siblings who all had lots of their own kids, herself having the fewest with two, and all those kids now have lots of kids...)

I have two secrets about it. One is that sometimes, I think everyone else must be exaggerating when they talk about how often they get told they need to have kids and "will change their mind someday." I think, fine, maybe someone said that to you once or twice. That's not "all the time." Get some perspective.

The other secret is that when I'm not thinking that, I think I must be a special case who nobody wants to have kids because they know I'd be a terrible mom. And I don't want kids, but I don't think I'd be a bad mom. I like watching my cousins' kids. If it really is the norm for all women to be told to have kids, I want to be part of the norm. I'd rather have that than be left out because I'm just that terrible of a hypothetical parent.

I'm in my early thirties, and while I've never been lectured about my nonexistent children, it's definitely taken for granted that I'll have them. And I know that if I correct people on that assumption, I'll be walking headfirst into that very debate.

If anything, I'd assume it was the same for you: It's not that they think you're a bad potential mum, it's that they take it for granted that you'll be one that there's no reason for them to remind you about it.

Are you engaged/married or in a long term relationship? That makes a difference, IMO.

Late 20s here and some people ask me if I want kids and I just say "no" and sometimes they say "really? you're not gonna change your mind?" and I just say "lol no" and let it go. My mom brings it up sometimes but like, I was the one who brought it up first, when I was a teenager, so I think she's just teasing me sometimes. I think some people do have families that pressure them a lot though. And I don't think you should take it personally that people don't pressure you. They just might be reasonable people who don't want to pressure you.

~Just because it didn't happen to you doesn't mean that it hasn't happened to anyone else~

Come on! His public relations people must have known that Brian Moylan (the reporter- outed Anderson Cooper beforehand. There were vacation photos of him and his boyfriend that Lee's friends posted. Lee was scheduled to be in Angels In America.....I believe Lee being flustered by "intrusive" questions is totally phony.

What does this even mean????

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I'm an introvert but I don't like 90% of the internet posts purporting to "explain" being an introvert. They act like it's some kind of bizarre thing that no one's ever heard of even though a very large percentage of the population are introverts. They also act like all introverts ever want to do is sit around and read and all extroverts want to do is party. I'm seeing less of it than I did a year or two ago but sometimes I wish people would just drop those labels entirely.