[ SECRET POST #4130 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4130 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Captain Jean-Luc Picard, Star Trek: The Next Generation]



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[Lee Pace]


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[Spyro Reignited Trilogy]


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[How I Met Your Mother]









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Comments

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

When I finally meet someone, how do I address the fact that I'm virgin in my 30s?

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

You probably don't, unless you're at the stage where you're getting physically intimate. Then you'd just tell them you're not very experienced and you'd like to take things slowly.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

My plan (if I do ever meet someone) is to say nothing about it, mention that my last relationship of any sort was back in college, and after the deed is done clear up the fact that I never slept with my college boyfriend and this was actually my first time.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Does it need to be brought up? I agree with anon above, if things get physical, just say you're not very experienced and would like to move at your own pace.

To me virgin status (or non-virgin status) isn't like STI history where it's something that needs to be brought up for the other person's healthy and safety.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

I got lucky. I innocently invited my boyfriend back to the house, just because it was convenient, he admitted he had never had sex, I said, no worries neither had I, and just moved on.

It took us a little while to be comfortable with each other and now we probably have sex 2-3 times a week, really depending on our schedules.

Go at your own pace and let it just flow when it comes up. Be honest and that's how you know you're right for each other.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, stuff like this looms large in your mind as this Big Issue, but in real life... it's not that big of a deal. Nobody who is interested in you as a person will care, and anyone who thinks less of you for being a virgin in your 30s isn't someone you want in your life, anyway. It's not even likely to come up until you're getting serious enough to sleep with someone.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

I thought it'd be a huge deal when I was 26; when things worked out, I didn't mention it because it didn't seem like necessary information - met someone, hit it off, had a good kiss, decided "what the hell, I'll say yes this time"; once in the moment, we communicated about what we needed re: slowing down / taking a step back / trying another angle until we were both having fun. The question of "Hey, have you done this before?" just didn't come up. Neither of us asked for, or offered, that information and it was fine.

So good luck and hope you find an awesome partner and communicate well and have awesome sex whenever it's right for you both!