[ SECRET POST #4130 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4130 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Captain Jean-Luc Picard, Star Trek: The Next Generation]



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[Lee Pace]


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[Spyro Reignited Trilogy]


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[How I Met Your Mother]









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Comments

Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Ask it, answer it.

How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[(Anonymous)]

I am my nephew's favorite. Everyone knows it, including my mother and sister (grandmother and aunt). I don't know exactly why I am his favorite, but I am. How do I make them feel better about this? He is four.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[thewakokid]

Don't. Revel in it. Rub it in their faces.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[(Anonymous)]

Why is it your job to make them feel better about it? Like you said, he's 4, and there's no obvious reason for why he feels that way. Because, well, he's 4. I can understand feeling a bit sad, but it'd be dumb for your mom and sister to take it personally.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[tabaqui]

You don't?
He's four - they're grown adults. They need to deal with it and move on. Kids like who they like, and unless you're secretly sneaking him candy and money or something, he just clicks with you. Enjoy that, make good memories with him, and let them work it out on their own.

It's not an 'issue' unless they're being whiny babies about it.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[mrs_don_draper]

You don't. It's weird for adults to be bothered by that, tbh.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[(Anonymous)]

Enjoy it while it lasts.

And put on a sparkly hat so they will Know and Worship

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[(Anonymous)]

Eh? Are they seriously upset by that? He's barely out of toddlerhood, his reasons might be completely arbitrary - or at least they'd seem that way to adults. Your relatives would have to be pretty insecure not to just shrug it off as one of those things.

Re: How do I make my relatives feel better about me being the favorite aunt?

[(Anonymous)]

Let the kid be a kid, let the kid like you, keep being nice to the kid.
But since adult egos can be fragile little things, just make a few efforts to include the others in playtime. Like, I am the favourite aunt of my niece. So, when my other sister is around, I make sure she doesn't feel left out by saying things like "Oh, WOW, yeah, that IS a lovely drawing, thank you! Let's make one for Aunt B!" or "Yes, I can read you a story, but I'm very tired, so Aunt B will read you the other one," type of thing.

And of course, goes without saying, I never EVER EVER show the other kids that the favouritism is mutual. Always equal play time, always equal presents, always sharing.

So yeah, having a kid stamp of approval is awesome! Enjoy it! Also be an awesome sister and daughter by sharing all the joy.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

How do you actually get people to like things on business pages?

Hell, not even like, CLICK. Just click a link.

I've even stooped to posting ~inspirational photos~ because that's half of what people on my feed share, and nothing.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Are you wanting them to Like posts on Facebook or Click links to outside sites?

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Is this for ads or content?

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Have you tried pictures of Minions with mostly unrelated sayings? Nostalgia bombs? Clickbait-y titles?

What kind of business?

[(Anonymous)]

In general, though, you could try memes, stupid quizzes, animal pictures, clever tweets, and contests.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think there's a magical formula, per se. If I follow a business, what I want to see are posts relevant to that business or things related to that business that interest me, not "inspirational photos" or random Facebook memes. That would get an unfollow really fast.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

When I finally meet someone, how do I address the fact that I'm virgin in my 30s?

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

You probably don't, unless you're at the stage where you're getting physically intimate. Then you'd just tell them you're not very experienced and you'd like to take things slowly.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

My plan (if I do ever meet someone) is to say nothing about it, mention that my last relationship of any sort was back in college, and after the deed is done clear up the fact that I never slept with my college boyfriend and this was actually my first time.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Does it need to be brought up? I agree with anon above, if things get physical, just say you're not very experienced and would like to move at your own pace.

To me virgin status (or non-virgin status) isn't like STI history where it's something that needs to be brought up for the other person's healthy and safety.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

I got lucky. I innocently invited my boyfriend back to the house, just because it was convenient, he admitted he had never had sex, I said, no worries neither had I, and just moved on.

It took us a little while to be comfortable with each other and now we probably have sex 2-3 times a week, really depending on our schedules.

Go at your own pace and let it just flow when it comes up. Be honest and that's how you know you're right for each other.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, stuff like this looms large in your mind as this Big Issue, but in real life... it's not that big of a deal. Nobody who is interested in you as a person will care, and anyone who thinks less of you for being a virgin in your 30s isn't someone you want in your life, anyway. It's not even likely to come up until you're getting serious enough to sleep with someone.

Re: Advice!

[(Anonymous)]

I thought it'd be a huge deal when I was 26; when things worked out, I didn't mention it because it didn't seem like necessary information - met someone, hit it off, had a good kiss, decided "what the hell, I'll say yes this time"; once in the moment, we communicated about what we needed re: slowing down / taking a step back / trying another angle until we were both having fun. The question of "Hey, have you done this before?" just didn't come up. Neither of us asked for, or offered, that information and it was fine.

So good luck and hope you find an awesome partner and communicate well and have awesome sex whenever it's right for you both!

Patreon advice

[dani_phantasma]

So my brother and I are working on moving out to Colorado with the folks and i have to go search for a job again and since mom doesn't drive anymore I am concerned about transportation and how I'm going to get anywhere.

I don't wanna rely on Kaiti and her husband or on dad because that would stress people out so I wanna make a transportation fund and my job has started running low on payroll hours.
Soooo I started a Patreon. The banners kinda.. loud so I'm working on a new one. So I'm aware of that problem. I'm trying to work on putting out content but I feel a little discouraged. I have examples of my work.

https://www.patreon.com/JaybieJay any constructive criticism on how I can work on getting more patrons? (CONSTRUCTIVE criticism pls)

I'm not doing this because I want to like piss anyone off I just... wanna try and use what I can do to get some money while I search for a new job and look into benefits.

Re: Patreon advice

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not an expert but it seems to me that Patreon depends on already having a significant following, not for people to start off passing the hat around to strangers. Do you have a significant following for your work?

Cockroach DDDD:

[(Anonymous)]

I saw a cockroach in my apartment. I'm from somewhere where cockroaches aren't a thing. I know logically I am much bigger than it, and realistically he's probably harmless and just, you know, trying to survive and stuff. But I already have a bit of an insect-phobia when they are in my home, my safe space. These fuckers are fucking huge and I'm literally so jumpy right now.

I vacuumed him up (can't bear to kill them directly, I'm a wimp) and then was flustered for the next half hour until I worked up the courage to drag my vacuum to the dumpster and dump the contents into a garbage bag (it's bagless, and it was so bad for me I didn't even want to see it, or risk it jumping out back into my apartment or exploding in my face or whatever roaches do). Now I hear if you've seen one roach, that means there are a billion of them in every corner of your place.

I'm not messy, and I just did a massive clean once I finally got the roach out. Vacuumed, washed counter tops, etc. I've sent a message to my landlord, too.

Any advice for me? Whether for keeping roaches out, and also not being such a bug-phobic mess? I'm still shaking.