[ SECRET POST #4141 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4141 ⌋

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Re: Questions you can't ask IRL or online non-anon

[(Anonymous)]

Theoretically, yes. But IRL practice, it's hard - this is speaking as someone with no kids. I get it, I do. It starts with pregnancy and just snowballs from there. For the first few years, a mother's life is like... 99.999% BABY. There isn't much time and energy for more, and when you do have spare time you want to eat, sleep and shower and maybe talk to your spouse. Meanwhile, you're watching your childless friends do all the fun, carefree things YOU used to do before you had a kid and it probably feels very isolating. Making friends with people who are in the same boat is easier, and bonus! Your kid gets a new friend, too!

It feels like you found a new tribe and... I truly don't mean this in a mean way, but it's easier and nicer to pat each other on the back about being parents: the trials and tribulations, what a trooper you are to get through it, etc. etc. Sort of a self reinforcing mutual admiration society that you don't get from your childless friends. Kids-having feels like a stronger bond and more common ground than any of your previous hobbies or interests and frankly, some of the new friends will be Mean Girl types whose self interest is invested in making sure you join the clique by telling you that nobody can understand you the way they do. There's a reason why so many mommy message boards are toxic.