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[ SECRET POST #4146 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4146 ⌋

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[Alan Titchmarsh (British gardener and TV presenter)]

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[Fashion Doll Fandom]

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04. [SPOILERS for Infinity War]

[MCU (Natasha/Steve)]

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08. [SPOILERS for Alex Verus]

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09. [WARNING for discussion of sexual assault and stuff]

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10. [WARNING for RL murder of children]

[Serial (podcast), real life murderer Yoselyn Ortega]

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11. [SPOILERS for X-Men/Phoenix Resurrection]

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Do you suffer from second-hand embarrassment? What is your threshold? How bad does it have to be before you explode from the shame? Or pass onto another dimension because no...no this is far too much!!!

Fandom and irl examples welcome!

Yes. YES. YESSSSS. So much, I can't watch so many shows or movies because of it. And I have a super low threshold.

Me too.

What kind of shows? I feel the same about some shows.

I esp. have to walk out of a room when certain characters flirt (in general) or worse, when A is still flirting /overly eager when B could not give a shit.

The Office is a big one. Cannot watch it.

the Brit version or the US one?

American.

I find the British one funnier

Same. I flip channels whenever I feel like someone is going to make an ass of themselves, or is going to be humiliated in a spectacular way.

Argh, I hope nothing ever tops this because I might implode to try and escape the squirming awkwardness, but I’ve been going to Ssn Diego Comic Con since, idk, 2004? And before all the bigger panel discussions that end with a Q&A session, the moderator or someone will do a quick “be polite, please no creepy questions, we want these people to come back next year” spiel.

One time some dude went selectively deaf during that part, asked an actress if she would star in a script he was writing especially for her, would she care to meet with him after... cue 1000 people booing and them cutting the mike.

SDCC doesn’t clear the rooms between panels. If there’s something popular you want to see, resign yourself to sitting through stuff you know nothing about. Bring a book or something.

I forget what I’d been waiting to see. But I remember sitting through the first Twilight movie panel. I work for a library so I’d read the first couple of books for the same reason I read Dan Brown; patrons ask what we think of the popular stuff. I went, okay, paranormal romance for teens, dynamic between the lovers was a bit creepy and off, whatever, at least they weren’t as bad as Eragon. Maybe they’d make better films than books, I want to see the other stuff afterwards, how bad can it be?

I thought I was prepared. I wasn’t. These were the most OTT, no respect for the actors, no self control, no dignity group of fans I have ever seen, to this day. EVERY SINGLE QUESTION was just HOLY SHIT. I wanted to melt through the floor. “What kind of underwear do you have on?” “Do you like older women?” “What’s it like being the sexiest man in the world?” And every time, every. single. time. the main actor opened his mouth to say anything, 5,000 or so of the 6,500 people in the room would SCREAM. I can only assume the other 1,500 were rooted to their seats in horror like I was.

I went from not caring one way or another about Twilight except being pissed that the hardbacks fell apart so fast to cringing when anyone checked one out. One time a middle-aged woman with an Edward sweatshirt, his giant pouty face taking up her entire torso, was pushing a stroller past the circ desk and my first thought was “was she in that room? Did she lower her voice to sound seductive as she asked that poor bastard what underwear he had on?”

Oh geez. I loved Twilight back in the day (and to be honest, I still enjoy it all except Breaking Dawn), but the fandom had a super loud, aggressively creepy section to it that really made me want to distance myself from it. I would've died from horror if I'd been at that panel. Some things you only discuss among other fans and you never, ever bring it up to the people involved in bringing the thing you love to life.

ayrt

OH My Lord. I would have died in my seat. I can't watch any actor panels on YouTube because of these types of questions. ﹰIt just makes me cringe. Like...people asking these questions make the rest of the fans look type batshit. Please...control yourself. Because if some rando asked you these questions, you'd file harassment. People seem to to get actors are people too. The stupid cult of celebrity smh

Eeeek!

I can't afford to go to cons that invite bigger-name actors (partly because I live nowhere near SDCC or Dragon Con) but even the D-listers can get weird fans and awkward questions.

Haha. Oh god. My friend asked me to go to a Supernatural con with her once. I wasn't even really aware of the fandom because apparently I was living under a nice, safe rock.

They asked the actors questions about the brother characters doing the do.

I definitely get the feeling you describe of wanting to melt through the floor.

my threshold generally is pretty high, but my limit is LARP. anytime someone is legit pretending to be any character, live and in person, I am super second-hand embarrassed. I feel like if you dragged me to Disneyworld I'd be just as embarrased by the face characters, but anyone in cosplay playing pretend fills me with so much cringe I have to leave.

Damn! For LARP, is it the OCs that people pretend to be or is it spoecific characters?

the, if I went to Disney I would prefer to take a picture with a statue of my fave character than someone dressed up as them, so I understand that.

Yeeeeeees. I try to avoid it when possible. :(

I'm an awkward scene skipper during movies. Or I just skip the whole movie if I think there will be more awkward scenes.

I find celebrity interviews hard to watch.

I can't handle listening to anyone sing badly in public.

I was at a Penn and Teller live show once and they always do a meet and greet afterwards. Anyway one woman standing next to me kept poking Penn in the back and I could tell it was pissing him off. (also I was scared he was going to think it was me doing it)

That's just a violation of personal space...Who does that? i onl y ever tal people (and once at that) if they dropped something or need a seat on public transport.

Oh shit I already replied to this (sat through the twilight panel at sdcc) but I just remembered another way more obscure one. This was a one-man stage show/musical revue where at the end the actor/pianist dude would get a singalong going with the audience.

So this one woman basically tried to “happy birthday, Mr. President” the actor —I mean, she was in the audience and couldn’t actually dry-hump him and I forget what she actually sang, but she propositioned him in front of the audience of 600ish people including seniors and little kids. He actually replied that his wife wouldn’t appreciate it, trying to make a joke, but it ruined the atmosphere for everybody. I hope the lady took the hint. The weird thing is I think his wife was a former Canadian Prime Minister? Something like that.

op

I need to hang out with you lol this is too much

I have to pause tv shows if something embarrassing is happening, but shit like that one decade old anime convention video with nonstop nyaa-ing doesn't bother one bit. Think I have to be invested in the characters. In real life, I get embarrassed by association if a friend or something does something embarrassing, but strangers doing embarrassing things doesn't bother me.

Loved the Office though

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