[ SECRET POST #4161 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4161 ⌋

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[fscom]

07. https://i.imgur.com/VVvrmkp.png

It doesn't do much for me, either.

[(Anonymous)]

But I can see how it might for other people. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like it'd just make me embarrassed to be honest. I am so not a fan of compliments.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, for one thing, I think just about any kind of power relationship is going to be a kink for someone out there.

[(Anonymous)]

Any sort of praise would freak me out and question their motives, so it would have the opposite effet on me.

(Huh. I really don't take kindly to kindness.)

[(Anonymous)]

It doesn't do anything for me, and reading it and imagining myself in those situations...no, not working. Feels way too patronising to me. But yeah, I'm all for people having fun and enjoying what they read.

Love your choice of pic, though.

[(Anonymous)]

I kind of have it. It's not like all praise does it though. I can feel downright embarrassed in vanilla situations.

But in others? When a certain person says what a good girl I've been and how proud of me they are? Instant warm squirming.

[nightscale]

I've read some fic where it's worked for me, but it has to be in small doses. Otherwise I just find it embarrassing can can't get into it.

Which is my issue not a problem of the kink itself.

[(Anonymous)]

Wait, so what is it in theory? Affirmations as dirty talk?

[tabaqui]

It's like - having your sub give you head, and while they're doing it you're petting them or cupping their cheek or something going 'you're so good at that, so amazing, look how well you take it, you're like a perfect little slut for my (genitalia)'.

That sort of thing.

[(Anonymous)]

It sort of plays the same role as humiliation does? shows up in basically the same places that humiliation would, just with the polarity reversed

[tabaqui]

I can take it or leave it, but most of the time, the sub in those fics is written in such a way (super-uber-subby in a way that bleeds over into non-scene life and/or super low self-esteem/very easily upset) that I find extremely offputting.

So i don't end up reading a lot of those fic, anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

I enjoy praise kink but only if it's kinda skeevy and manipulative, which... seems to be exactly what praise kink fans don't want. LOL.

[(Anonymous)]

Praise kink is something that I never understood.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't really see it as sexy by itself, but can be nice combined with other kinks.

[(Anonymous)]

I love praise kink!!
(in fics, in rl not so much)

For me it has a lot to do with displays of affection, my own love for a character and character dynamics.

So for instance I love character A I want them to be showered by praise bc they deserve it and it gives the spotlight to the thing that's being praised, making it seem more intense.
Also praise shows that character B really loves A and appreciates what they do.
This all especially work if the character A is mistreated in canon or I think they deserve more recognition for what they do or if they are character that in canon have a big ego and somehow get off on people telling them how good they are.

As an example: LeFou/Gaston from BatB (for me it works both ways).

That said, like any other kink you don't need to get it if it's not your thing. It's normal.

[dahli]

I like my warm fuzzies with my arousals (and my angst) so praise kink is up my alley but I can see why some people find it weird.

[(Anonymous)]

Tbh I kink on praise kink cause I was emotionally abused as a kid/young adult and ended up finding the very idea of being praised rare enough to be erotic ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I’m in a better situation now but the kink sticks

[philstar22]

My favorite kink. I get that it isn't for others. But I don't get how you don't get it? It is simply the opposite of humiliation: getting turned on by pleasing the other person and them letting you know that they were pleased and are enjoying what you are doing. Or getting turned on by verbal affection.

[(Anonymous)]

But in the general comments, you specifically cited humiliation kink as a kink you don't get. So why is it difficult to understand how someone else might not get praise kink?

[(Anonymous)]

It's very sad that we live in a world where enjoying getting compliments from your partner is considered a crazy kink and not just normal thing that people who care for each other like to do for each other. Words of Affirmation is one of the Five Love Languages, for pete's sake.

[(Anonymous)]

Praise kink isn't the same as getting compliments, my dude.

Like, I mean it certainly can be compliments that aren't specifically 'you're so good at X sexy thing' but it's... it's definitely a different dynamic from simply being verbally affirming with a partner. It's about the way it's done

[(Anonymous)]

I always thought of it as bedroom specific. Like A praising B for being so good in bed or a specific action. I could kinda see it as a rousing if the partner is telling you how good you are at X, and yes, keep doing that etc.

But agreed, someone's enjoying themselves. Even if it's not me.

[(Anonymous)]

nothing wrong with not getting a kink. That's why its a kink. It's not going to hit for everyone. But praise kink for a lot of people is a kink because its a power dynamic/play. Praising someone for doing a good job in a way that indicates you're someone they should be trying to please, that they did a good job at making you feel something, that they're serving you well. It can be anywhere on the scale from a master to a servant kind of thing, very dominating but in a roll that encourages hard/good effort all the way to someone enjoying something that's being done to them so much they have to say something because they can't be restrained or 'polite' about it. Since the power play of it can slide all the way from one side to the other on who is 'in charge' of the situation - and frankly because some people find lavishing attention on their partner to the point of vocal affirmation hot - anywhere from 'what a good little cum-dump you are' to 'oh that was - wow - I can't - that was amazing. You're amazing' and you've got yourself a kink some people enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

Man, that illustration is inspired.

(I don't care for it either. I've written it in the past, and enjoyed it in reading, but I would have never thought of tagging it; I don't consider it its own thing but part of a character dynamic that may or may not fit the characters in question.)