[ SECRET POST #4169 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4169 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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(Eugene from Buzzfeed)


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[Patrick J. Adams, Suits]


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[Jack Black]


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[Despicable Me]


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[The Elsie Dinsmore series]


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[voltron]











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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

since going up to a complete stranger and commenting on their body is completely rude.
Except from what I read, she didn't? She was sitting next to him, saw a picture of him in the paper and she said she thought it was unflattering. He asked why, and she said it was because he was chunky. Did she mean the photo made him look chunky and he wasn't in real life? Considering she said the picture was unflattering, presumably she thought he looked better in person, so it could be. Or she could mean that he thinks he looks chunky and the camera picked up on it in an unflattering way. Who knows? But she didn't volunteer the body comments immediately; he is the one who asked why, when he could have just left it alone. Granted, I can't imagine ever telling someone I don't know well that a picture was unflattering, but it's not like she just randomly went up to the guy and blurted out "you're really chunky!"

And, again, while saying to someone that a picture of them is unflattering is rude, that is one on one. She didn't post it to millions of followers. She made one rude comment and gets to be publicly humiliated by many many people? There is a vast difference in scale. I absolutely feel sympathy for her even if her comments were uncalled for.

[(Anonymous)]

The polite thing to say is, "I don't think it does you justice", or something like that. Even if he asked her opinion, calling someone fat is in no way good idea. I can't fathom why anyone would do that, especially if they themselves were overweight.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I agree with that. I wouldn't have made the first comment, but if for some reason I had and was asked why I found it unflattering, I would have said something like "you look better in person" or something like that. IDEK, as I can't fathom having said the first thing in the first place!

I agree that her comment(s) were rude. I just think that he very much escalated it. If he had made a similar comment back during that conversation, I wouldn't have thought anything of it and wouldn't have had any sympathy for her. However, him taking it public and posting it where millions of people ended up seeing it, takes it way over the line for me and I think less of him for it.

[(Anonymous)]

Original anon - write as long of an essay as you want, she still body-shamed a complete stranger. It's hypocritical to make her the sole "victim" in this scenario. Don't dish it out if you can't take it...

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
Don't you see a difference in scale, though? If he had responded back, "That's rude, and it's not like you have a good body" or something along those lines, I would have thought it was equal and thought nothing more about it. And no, wouldn't have had any sympathy for her. But escalating it like he did instead of dealing with it privately takes it to a whole other level, imo. I agree that her original remarks were uncalled for and rude, but I think less of him for his response to it.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't you see a difference in scale, though?

Gee, I wonder what I meant when I wrote: "On one hand, I think that since he has a larger platform, he has a larger obligation to take the higher road, especially when the other person is not in the public eye."

Huh, it's almost like they're both at fault and both deserve to share the blame in this. I agree with the suggestion that she is not an innocent victim and so I find OTT defense of her questionable and definitely reflecting double standards and hypocrisy. However, I disagree with the OP that he didn't do anything wrong.