[ SECRET POST #4171 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4171 ⌋

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Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not a situation I would have been comfortable with, because I know how wrong it can go. I am a lot more wary about men trying to get me alone now.

It's inappropriate to invite yourself into someone's space, IMO. It also sort of hits another wary point for me that he didn't back off at least temporarily in wanting to spend time with you. There is the more benign reason for trying to just push past the awkwardness or maybe not understanding that it's uncomfortable, or he is hoping you will be persuaded and has not taken your "no" as definitive.

Let him know that the music thing doesn't interest you. Set some boundaries for yourself with him so that you will be able to see if he respects your space and what you're telling him. If he takes it fine, then that's great and maybe you'll eventually find something to bond over as friends, but don't take it at face value that someone is on the same page as you with regards to how they view your interactions. A social outing to you may still be something he thinks of as a chance to convince you or to get you away from people who might be more firm in establishing boundaries on your behalf. You sound maybe a little naive or unsure of that, and some people will take full advantage of it.

Don't worry about making things awkward by being more firm and decisive. It is not you that is ignoring social cues. He is the one forcing you to make things awkward by putting you in that position. Better things be awkward than you be uncomfortable or in any situation where you feel unsafe.