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⌈ Secret Post #4171 ⌋

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Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

If you are interested in going to the concert, go.
If you want to throw him a clear signal that 'this is just about the concert," then take a friend as well. Better yet, take your partner.

As for whether it was innapropriate or not... yeah, there are BETTER ways to ask somebody out, but he behaved more awkwardly than badly - badly would be not accepting your answer or throwing a fit about you leading him on or something along those lines. It's all about boundaries - if you don't want people tagging along with you, make it clear they aren't welcome; a clear "good bye, now," works well; or if somebody doesn't want to leave when the others do, my usual policy is to hold the door open and ask "So, do you have everything you came with? Hope you get home safe". It's hard as FUCK to set clear boundaries with people who like you more than you like them, especially if they're new acquaintances and you can't yet peg how they'll react - it sucks. It equally sucks when you find somebody attractive but aren't quite sure if its mutual and find yourself awkwardly tagging along hoping for one-on-one time in which to ask (I mean, for self-aware people, the mere fact that there isn't any one-on-one time is a signal that, no, they're just not into you, but ... hope springs eternal). So I'd peg it as awkward, yes, but innapropriate, not really.

I'm more confused by the behaviour of your friend, who was worried about you and the guy AND LEFT YOU ALONE WITH HIM only to call later. That is bizarre to me. What was her reasoning? "this looks wierd, but not my problem, I need to catch the bus"? "Well, this is creepy, but maybe she'll be okay with it, I'll get out of the way to give him a shot at it, but then call later just to make sure it didn't go badly"? I mean... what the hell?