[ SECRET POST #4218 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4218 ⌋

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[Margot Robbie as Queen Elizabeth I and Saoirse Ronan as Mary Queen of Scots in Mary Queen of Scots (2018)]


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[Little Richard]


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[Jane Austen]


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[Joss Whedon, The Nevers]


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[God Eater 2]


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[Anthony Bourdain, Asia Argento]










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Comments

Re: How to break up with someone

[syncing_feeling]

This is never an easy thing to do, but you're doing the right thing if you're not feeling it. :( Personally I would do it in a private place. No matter how nicely you do it, he will feel hurt, or humiliated and need to lick his wounds for a bit. Maybe at his place so he can have some space to be alone after.

I can appreciate the idea of doing something nice together first, but it will just be prolonging the inevitable and might just further cement the relationship from his point of view. If you have a lot of similar interests, you could propose that you stay friends, but don't feel bad if he needs some time to digest things first.

You're not being immature, and it just shows what a good person you are that you're so concerned about his feelings. There are people that drop relationships so casually without any consideration. My first relationship ended with me getting dumped via a quick phone call. So please don't be hard on yourself. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk. <3

Re: How to break up with someone

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you, I really appreciate your thoughtful reply.

Your thoughts make perfect sense, it's just hard to know how to get the timing right. We usually meet on weekends and do something first, then go back to one of our apartments. I don't want to set a "trap" for them by pretending to be on a nice date and then turning it upside down on them, but if I don't work up the courage to have the conversation right away, am I then stuck waiting another week or can I have the talk before going home.. It's hard for me, and I know me being scared and indecisive is just prolonging the inevitable and being more hurtful and disrespectful toward them but I don't know how to set all the pieces up so the setting and timing will be perfect. I also get that I shouldn't overthink this, and having tough conversations is part of being an adult (and for the record, I'm definitely an adult...)

Thanks again for your nice reply, I appreciate it!

Re: How to break up with someone

[(Anonymous)]

The timing is never going to be perfect, and if you try to stage it too much, it's going to feel manipulative. Call them before the weekend and let them know that you need to talk. It would be preferable if you could meet sometime during the week, but if that's impossible, then do it first thing on the weekend. Don't do the fake date thing first. Do go somewhere that's private enough that no one's going to stare if someone starts crying. It's going to suck, but the best thing for both of you is for you to do it soon. Good luck.

Re: How to break up with someone

[syncing_feeling]

Yeah, I know it's hard to not overthink this. :( Knowing that you've made your decision but just need to break the news is a really stressful place to be in. If it would be possible to meet with him during the week instead of the weekend then I'd recommend it; not just for his sake, but yours as well, as this is clearly causing you a lot of anxiety and worry and you shouldn't have this stress hanging over you for another week.

Unfortunately, there's no perfect timing for the conversation either way, and on the day it might seem easier to put it off or see how things go for another week. But I'd really recommend getting in touch with him as soon as is reasonable and saying you need to talk, make sure he knows first that you still care for him platonically and that you'd like to stay friends if he's comfortable with it, but that this relationship just isn't the right fit for you.

All the best. <3