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⌈ Secret Post #589 ⌋

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You've been talking to assholes. They're not the same thing as real men. Really.

So, they can't relate to women or understand them, and yet still accept them as human beings, and that makes them assholes?

The sexes don't understand each other. We never have. Heck, that's where the whole "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" thing comes from. We can't completely relate to each other becasue we're very different. We're *wired* differently. So you can't really blame a guy for not wanting to go to the same trouble to connect with fictional women as he does with a real one.

Yeah, right. Men and women aren't that different, and yes, men and women can generally understand each other. We're all human, and our naughty bits don't change the fact that we, as humans, have 99% of things in common and 1% of things that make us 'different.' Same for race, ethnicity, and whatever. You may as well replace 'man' and 'woman' with 'white' and 'black.'

Anyone who says otherwise is making up excuses for society's tendency to group people and make 'others' feel like outsiders. Like you, for example. Men feel sad when something upsetting happens, men have hobbies, men feel happy when people love them, and men have human bodies that have the requisite organs to sustain life. And guess what?

Women do too.

That, and you're obviously ignoring people who don't fit into 'man' or 'woman.' What, do you think you're cool because you've hit upon some 'real' men who refuse to relate to women and other different humans in fictional portrayals? Head's up--you're not. You're not a special snowflake, and the things you're saying now have been said a million times. And they've been disproved a million times over, too.

Yes. Yes, they are. If they can't relate to or understand half of all human beings, they are assholes.

We DO understand each other. We may not always have, but there's never been any biological reason for us not too, and nowadays, plenty of men and women do understand and relate to each other. We're not wired that differently. I CAN blame a guy for viewing connecting to a character as troublesome just because she's female. That is sexism at its finest - fundamentally viewing men and women as different. We're not. Stop thinking we are.

And before you say it, I've talked to straight men. A lot of them. Tons. I went to a school that had 3 men for every woman. Made a lot of male friends there, and never once encountered a guy who, in discussing common interests with him, was unable or even less likely to relate to a female character. And the ones who were my friends? Understood me. That's how it should be.

You know, re-reading the secert, it seems that he's more put-out because he dislikes *certain* female characters, and when he expresses this dislike, being labeled sexist or a misogynist. So this entire argument is just stupid. (Which is good, because it's gotten so twisted around that I'm not even sure what we're arguing about anymore.)

Yes, the sexes can understand each other. Most well-adjusted people have little problem relating to someone on a base level regardless of their sex, age, gender, race, ethnicity, location, and many other factors.

Humans are humans. No matter what you or anyone else says, we're far more alike than we are different, and it's unfortunate that people will pick the very, very small differences in us to set everyone apart instead of looking at the whole picture. We should celebrate the differences, and not use them as an excuse to remain ignorant and not bother.

"We should celebrate the differences"

So why are we beating up on this guy who doesn't like female characters? That makes him different, it makes him unique and special. Why not celebrate that difference and let him enjoy the characters he likes, instead of slapping him with such a vicious label?

(Besides all that, I reread his secert and am starting to seriously suspect that we're all missing the point here...)

Uh, no. You missed the point. I understood the secret, rolled my eyes, and moved on because I don't really care if someone doesn't like some female characters.

I replied to you.

Because your defense of what you thought the secret meant was, frankly, the stupidest thing I've heard since secret 126.

No, none of us are missing the point. You are. I'm not going to celebrate someone being different when what makes them different is their negative attitude about entire chunks of the world's population, including their fictional portrayals.

FYI? You don't know it's a guy. Most of the hate directed at female characters is by way of female readers, and yes, they're referred to as misogynists and sexists as well. Your entire argument (which is flimsy at best) is based around an uninformed assumption you're making about the creator of the secret. Sheesh.

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Okay, the "men are from mars, women are from venus" thing is pure bullshit.

And hell, a lot of women really like fictional male characters! If it was really just a question of the sexes not being able to relate to each other, you would think you'd see an equal number of women who just didn't like fictional men, and that's obviously not the case. so....men who don't like fictional women on principle because they're women are sexist pigs.

Besides, as other people have pointed out, we don't know for sure the secret-maker is a guy. Women can spew misogynist bullcrap, too.

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