[ SECRET POST #4285 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4285 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Suikoden]



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[Great British Bake Off, series 8+]


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[Kelly Siegler on Cold Justice]


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[The Great Food Truck Race]











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Comments

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[(Anonymous)]

The absolute mess that happens when a loved one dies suddenly and unexpectedly. It's not just grief and your world falling apart, it's that AND dealing with the admin work of arranging funerals, wrangling with insurance and doing stuff you've never done, like throwing a really sad party and trying to get the contact info for everyone your loved one knew well enough to invite to the memorial, all while fielding dozens of phone calls from people who meant well but who will inevitably say shitty awful things to you.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[rosehiptea]

My father died relatively suddenly. He died in a huge amount of debt. I had to beg for money on the internet for his cremation, and I had to tell his many creditors that he had died. And the house had a reverse mortgage on it, so I knew I was going to lose that, too. I should have been more prepared for the whole mess than I was, but it was so horrible.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[(Anonymous)]

You couldn't have known. That's the crappy part - the average person just isn't prepared for something like that and why would they be? It's made me more aware that even though I'm not old or in poor health, I should make plans and write a will just so my family aren't caught off guard.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[rosehiptea]

I really want to buy burial insurance, but I keep hearing that it's a rip-off. I might do it anyway though because I don't want my son stuck in the situation I was. I'm 51 and in fairly good health but I need to think about this. Unfortunately I don't have a big chunk of money lying around to make actual pre-need arrangements, though I keep hearing they're a rip-off too.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly I'd just set aside the money with instructions on what it's for. Or just get life insurance. It depends on what arrangement you want, of course. I'm all for cremation in a cardboard box. I don't want people to waste money on a fancy coffin.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[rosehiptea]

For religious reasons I'd rather not be cremated but I definitely don't want a fancy coffin or embalming (urgh) or anything like that. Right now I don't have the money to set aside, but I should work on it. I just want my son to be able to get to the money as quickly as possible.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT but my mom bought a plan through Smart Cremation that she ended up never using, because I looked it up after she paid $500 down out of $2000 and thought it looked like a scam/ripoff. When she passed away I paid less than $900 to have her cremated—she wanted to be composted, heh, but that’s not legal anywhere. I don’t know about prepaying for a burial plot or anything though.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[rosehiptea]

My dad's cremation was more than that but not much more. (Also he wanted the cremains to be scattered so I had to pay extra for that.) He had a small burial policy that would have covered it but he never told me about it and it ended up taking forever to get the money from the insurance company.

I do want to buy a burial plot - not because I really care where I get buried but just so my son doesn't have to worry about it when I die. But it's very expensive so I can't do it right now.

Re: What things terrify you that most people probably don't think about?

[syncing_feeling]

This is something I think about every day. A really close friend of mine passed away 5 years ago today (just got back from a little memorial get-together with friends) and while I struggled massively with his death, I can't imagine how it must have been for his son. He was with him when he died, organized the funeral, the eulogy, what music to play at the wake, and I just. I just can't. How do you even process that.

I miss him so much.