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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2018-12-01 07:00 pm

[ SECRET POST #4350 ]


⌈ Secret Post #4350 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
normalize unrequited attraction that requires nothing from the target

IT'S FINE TO BE ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T OR COULDN'T RETURN THAT FEELING, especially if that person is a celebrity completely unaffected by you

like, don't send him weird flirty messages on twitter or something, obviously it's possible for ordinary people to impact a celebrity's life in a creepy way, but like...

just in general, we have such tangled-up societal ideals about attraction and entitlement. maybe if it were OKAY to say "I'm attracted to X, they would never be attracted to me, and it's fine" we'd have less weight in some of our other weird sexual hang-ups

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 12:29 am (UTC)(link)
I wish I could convince myself this was true

(about my own attractions, I mean)

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
you can't change your id, you can only control how you treat people

fortunately, how you treat people is the only thing that matters

just keep trying to think about it in terms of people who aren't you. like, is a lesbian with a crush on a straight girl (90-95% of all the women around) evil? what about just being attracted to someone who isn't into you, for reasons other than gender??? Find an example that's easier to answer "this is ridiculous," and focus on that one, make yourself think about it and say it over and over until it sinks in.

good luck, anon

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
I kind of wish that was the normal assumption for all feelings. I've liked some great people and some of them have liked me back. That doesn't mean I want a relationship with them or even think one would work between us.

I am not shy, or resentful about being stuck in the friendzone which isn't even a thing. I like having friends. I don't see that as a stepping stone to anything.

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 12:57 am (UTC)(link)
Um...I don't think OP said anything about trying to contact this person.

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
This x1000

(Anonymous) 2018-12-02 03:20 am (UTC)(link)
That's every other Tuesday for me.