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⌈ Secret Post #4354 ⌋

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Re: Just curious... do you think your parents were/are good parents?

[(Anonymous)]

Hmmm.

Hmmmmmmm.

I think my parents tried as hard as they could to the best of their abilities. And continue to do so to this day. That said, they made choices as parents that were incredibly damaging to my mental health, which is one of a myriad of reasons for why I've been in and out of therapy for the past 13 years.

As for what I think of them as individual people outside of their relation to me...
Hmmm.
Hmmmmmmm.

I'd like to believe I'd be friends with my dad. He has different political views and religious views, but I think my dad has a good heart. I believe he's a good person trying to do his best in an imperfect world. That said, the older he gets, the shorter & worse his temper gets, and he isn't great about apologizing for it & does not appear to be actively working on improving himself in that capacity, so that's frustrating. But simply put, we have a lot of things and opinions in common & enjoy doing things together, so we would probably be friends.

My mom, on the other hand, has a tendency to be wildly more self-centered than my dad (or myself. Or my brothers.) Not maliciously so (most of the time,) but harmful all the same. I think she strives to treat people the way she would like to be treated, but she often comes off as rude in moments when feelings like discomfort supersede civility. She's not a great listener. She doesn't retain information very well, and I personally find it exhausting & annoying constantly having to repeat the same answer to the same questions. On the whole, she can't read implicit social cues worth a damn & it has embarrassed me both personally & secondhand on her behalf many times before. She's not great about boundaries. Or understanding other people's lived experiences. In her defense, I've come to assume/read between the lines that she was incredibly emotionally abused by both of her parents (especially her own mother) up until both of her parents died when she was in her 50s.

She'd likely be an acquaintance of mine, but not someone I explicitly callsx or considered a friend. Perhaps the most distinct, concise way to describe my mother, as I often do, is this: "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions."