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⌈ Secret Post #4354 ⌋

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Re: Just curious... do you think your parents were/are good parents?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think my mom was a very good parent, but she wasn't the worst, either. She basically got the job done. But she also spent all the child support money on beer and cigarettes, and tended to make me feel overly demanding if I ever asked for anything, even really small stuff like more peanut butter on my sandwich or something. She didn't have the patience for my emotions, and she never really had the emotional maturity to let me have emotions without reacting to them as though we were on equal footing.

I think my father was an incredibly good parent, but not a perfect one. He was unbelievably patient and generous and understanding of my emotions and I've never once doubted that he loves me unconditionally. He was constantly willing to play with me and talk to me and meet me on my level, and he never seemed bored. He also rarely enforced rules unless they had clear and important purposes (like keeping me safe and healthy, or not being mean to others). But he did have a protracted breakdown in my preteen years, which left him unable to sustain a job and thus we ended up poor af and semi-homeless a couple of times. Our situation was worsened by his extremely poor money sense. I don't hold any of it against him, I truly don't. But objectively I'd say that one part of being a "good parent" is doing the shit that needs to be done so your child has a relatively stable home, and he was often unable to do that. Hence why I say he was a great parent, but not a perfect one.

I think my dad is a profoundly wonderful person. I would happily be his lifelong friend if he weren't my dad. I actually like my mom more as a friend than as a parent, but I'm still not sure I'd be friends with her if she weren't my mom. Maybe.