[ SECRET POST #4396 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4396 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Orwell: Ignorance is Strength]


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03.
[Russell Howard, "Recalibrate"]


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04.
[D. L. Hughley, Jimmy Carr and Katherine Ryan on The Fix on Netflix]


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05.
[A Star is Born]


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06.
[John Malkovich as Hercule Poirot in The ABC Murders]


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07.
[Andrew Knowlton, restaurant editor for Bon Appétit magazine and host on The Final Table]


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08.
[Exo/Cross Fire - Fonda Lee]








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Comments

[thewakokid]

I thought it was funny.

Also 100% a thing women still do, so...

The "Why" of it is interesting, tho. Explanation my GF has is that since women aren't physically capable of beating men most of the time, and when a woman IS physically capable of it men play the victim, (Both somewhat true IMO, but I reject the concept that complaining about violence in a relationship is "Playing the victim", but that's a different argument altogether) then the only way a woman can make her displeasure really felt is with emotional discomfort. Basically it's a deliberate attempt to invoke Kafka: "You've done something to displease me, you will be punished for it, but you can't know what it is because that would make it easier to deal with it"

So yeah, it still happens pretty frequently, men still find it to be a common and unpleasant experience, so there's still comedy in it.

And to head off any accusations of sexism: Yes, men have been known to do this too, It is not exclusively a female thing. But it DOES seem to be more commonly a female thing for the reasons explained above.

[thewakokid]

Oh, for the record, I do not believe as my GF does that the reason men resort to this tactic less than women is because "If she displeases me I'll just beat her" is the male version. I believe men resort to violence slightly more than woman, so maybe it is part of it, but in general no, I don't think it's the typical male reaction.

If there's any merit in the idea as a whole I would say that men with increased strength think "I'm so much stronger than her physically. I have a responsibility to let this go and not escalate it." and that is the only significant connection between increased male physical strength and NOT employing this tactic to make their SO suffer.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, that might be the case for some people, but I don't think everyone who refuses to express their feelings or opinions is doing it to punish the person asking.

At least for me, I don't always want to express my thoughts because I'm afraid that I'll say the wrong thing and the person asking will either get mad/guilt me, or belittle and mock me. It's happened to me often enough that telling people what I think just isn't worth it unless it's really important.