[ SECRET POST #4396 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4396 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Orwell: Ignorance is Strength]


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03.
[Russell Howard, "Recalibrate"]


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04.
[D. L. Hughley, Jimmy Carr and Katherine Ryan on The Fix on Netflix]


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05.
[A Star is Born]


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06.
[John Malkovich as Hercule Poirot in The ABC Murders]


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07.
[Andrew Knowlton, restaurant editor for Bon Appétit magazine and host on The Final Table]


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08.
[Exo/Cross Fire - Fonda Lee]








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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Same, non. My mother is the exact same way. Growing up she would ask me my opinion on something or if I wanted this or that but my answer was always "wrong" -- no matter what I said, it would set her off to varying degrees (sometimes lots of passive aggressive comments, sometimes outright screaming) and I just learned to never express my actual preferences for anything and instead just go with whatever I thought the other person wanted no matter how I felt about it.

It's an INCREDIBLY hard habit to break even into adulthood. I've been in relationships where the other person just didn't get why I looked at basic questions like "where do you want to eat" like they're a minefield and they'd get annoyed if I kept saying "oh, lets do whatever you want."

Stating what you want plainly is not easy when you've got years of being shot down and dragged into stressful arguments for doing exactly that.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT, but oh boy do I relate to this. As an adult, I now understand that a lot of how my mom is comes from her being raised in an very abusive home, but as a child it was very hard to deal with how anything whatsoever could set off the guilt trips and “why do you hate me” and so forth and so forth. And yeah, now, I have a hard time expressing a preference for anything, because I’m always afraid of upsetting or disappointing someone, even when I know my tendency to say “whatever you want” really aggravates people.