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⌈ Secret Post #4412 ⌋

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[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]

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[Haunted (on Netflix), "The Slaughterhouse"]

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[Criminal Minds]

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[The Promised Neverland]

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[British rapper Big Narstie]

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[Criminal Minds season 4, episode 13, "Bloodline"]

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[Angelina Jolie in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider]

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I feel like this is more a 'I should have kids before it becomes unviable', and not, 'I would like a child because I love kids and right now my life is incomplete without them'.

It's a combination, I think. A cousin my age recently had a baby she wasn't at all planning for. She was extremely upset when she discovered her pregnancy and her boyfriend had to talk her into keeping the baby. As it turns out, she's perfectly happy as a mother. I think part of my thoughts right now are "if she is happy now, why shouldn't I be?"

Talking to a professional isn't a bad idea. I think I'll give that a shot.

nayrt but... just because your cousin was happy after all doesn't mean you'll be, even if you have similar personalities and backgrounds. On the flip side, a friend of mine got a major case of baby-craving after being in the "no kids" camp until her 30s. She convinced her husband to go along with it, thinking that he'd love the baby and dive into fatherhood once the baby arrived.

Spoilers: He didn't, he's a terrible, emotionally absent father and she's raised two kids pretty much by herself because he chooses to spend all his free time glued to his laptop and phone. He's never even been alone with them for more than an hour and they're elementary school age now.

Not-OP, but the original Anon, but I feel bad for everyone in that situation tbh. The mom for getting stuck raising the kids, the kids for having an absentee father, and the father for getting stuck with something he didn't want (and she knew he didn't want) because he presumably said yes because he thought it would make her happy (and like her, maybe he thought he would turn into super-dad when the kids were born).

I honestly don't feel bad for the father. He said yes, but I don't think he truly believed he'd become Super Dad. I think he said yes because she promised him she'd raise the kids single-handed with no help from him... which is basically what she's done. He's an asshole in other ways too, mind you. But he hasn't even tried to be a good father and shows zero interest in his kids.

DA

That guy's a dick. My dad wasn't that bad, but he never really liked me and was mostly emotionally unavailable. I'm in my 30s now and still screwed up from that.

I feel sorry for those kids. I hope their maternal grandfather is picking up some slack, and there are other other positive male influences in their life.

... no, unfortunately. No positive male role models. I hate to come down too harshly because what's done is done, but I think it was a bad decision to have kids with that guy and I think those kids will pay the price for having an asshole emotionally unavailable father.

My dad has always been like this and he very much wanted kids. Not to look after, just as an accessory for pictures and social events to make himself look like a family man.

I'm so sorry. People like that definitely shouldn't have kids.

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