[ SECRET POST #4412 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4412 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]


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03.
[Haunted (on Netflix), "The Slaughterhouse"]


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04.
[Criminal Minds]


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05.
[The Promised Neverland]


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06.
[British rapper Big Narstie]


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07.
[Criminal Minds season 4, episode 13, "Bloodline"]


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08.
[Angelina Jolie in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider]












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Comments

Re: Should I become a single mother

[(Anonymous)]

No. Everything about what you've said here is a red flag as to why you SHOULDN'T have a kid.

Wanting to have a child because you hope to get something very specific out of it is a terrible reason to have a kid. Kids are their own human beings with their own personalities and likes and dislikes. You may never be able to have the same type of relationship with your potential kid that you had with your own mother because they may not turn out to be the type of person who wants to have that sort of relationship with their mother. Would you really, truly be okay with that?

The fact that you outright say you've never been particularly interested in kids or wanted them is also a huge red flag. Everyone I know who has had kids and been genuinely happy with the decision has wanted children for quite some time and had been planning for kids as a part of their life. They knew what sort of sacrifices they would have to make going in and they were prepared for it because it was something they had been considering for a while.

Kids are a pain in the ass. They're messy, they're smelly, they're obnoxious, they're exhausting, and when they're yours, you can't just hand them off to someone else when you're tired of them. I can't tell you how many times I've babysat my friend's daughter for an afternoon just so she could get some decent sleep or get some basic household chores done, and this is WITH her having a husband who is very involved in child-rearing. You say you don't have any family around and no real social network... what do you plan to do when you absolutely need a break from the kid for a little while? Because you will. All parents do. Having that support network is absolutely vital even with a devoted partner.

Also, when you have a kid, you're stuck with them for at least the next 18 years of your life. You can't undo the decision to have a child if you end up changing your mind and you owe it to them to give them the emotional support and love they need regardless of how you feel about them. The fact that you're questioning whether not it would be a good idea and asking other people for their opinions is a sign that you aren't actually prepared to make that sort of commitment.