[ SECRET POST #4506 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4506 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I specially love when people claim some of the abuse he suffered doesn't count because it happened while he was an adult and 'could have gotten out'

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Are we also going to blame battered wives for not leaving their husbands or...?

[(Anonymous)]

While I personally think Luther wouldn't leave as an adult is because of all the childhood abuse has conditioned him not to, I'm not 100% comfortable comparing battered wives here when a great part of the reason they don't leave is fear for their lives, which I can't imaging Luther has.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think Luther feared for his life, either. I think he feared losing the closest thing to a father he had in his whole life, which is not an insignificant thing. Look up the Golden Child vs. Scapegoat dynamic in narcissistic parenting. The GC is usually emotionally crippled and dependent on the narc parent because the narc parent has raised them to crave their approval and not be independent. Conversely, the SG is also raised to hunger for parental approval and never receive it, but they're often forced to be more independent and self reliant because they have no other choice.

When it comes to battered wives, I think fear for their lives is one aspect of it, but not, IMO, the greatest one. I think it's very similar as above - they're quite often women in a vulnerable position in the first place, chosen because an abuser saw them as easy prey. Slowly, their outside resources are cut off until they have only the abuser. Maybe kids enter the picture, which means there's higher stakes. These women often believe they love the abuser because they've been brainwashed into thinking that the abuse is their own fault,and if they could just be prettier, smarter, quieter, a better housekeeper, etc. then their abuser would magically turn into a good person. That's why it can take a long time for a battered wife to leave.

[(Anonymous)]

You’re Geneva Convention Anon aren’t you.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

Nah, just an anon who watched you abuse apologists shit all over an abuse victim :)