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⌈ Secret Post #4531 ⌋

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I'm sorry to hear that, anon. And as much as it sucks, the movie may have been the precipitating factor, especially if it was something like Natural Born Killers or the like. (I watched NBK back in the day and much of the imagery was chaotic and frankly somewhat disturbing, so it's just a go-to example here that stays in my mind)

But don't let that stop you from reccing it! Perhaps someone else you know will like it more.

Er, it's absolutely NOTHING like NBK. It's rather good actually, the Swedish version anyway.

I doubt it. That movie really isn't that bad (and sometimes a bit goofy). Especially if she likes vampire movies.

If that's the case, she sounds very judgmental. It's a beautiful movie, and yes it does have some dark theme, but it's one thing to tell you that it's not her cup of tea and quite another to completely break off all relationship over... what? A piece of barely even that problematic media? Sounds like she made you a favor.

At least you recced the American version.

If it's the American version shouldn't it say Let Me In instead of Let the Right One In in the secret?

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-02 22:25 (UTC) - Expand

That's def the poster and title of the Swedish version.

'At least'? Swedish version is so, so much better.

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-02 23:12 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-03 03:18 (UTC) - Expand

People have recommended worse stuff to me for worse reasons but I never ended a friendship over it. If that really is what happened then yeah, she's judgmental.

That's unfortunate. I want to say it was probably not anything you did, but if it was because of this movie, then hey, some people just aren't very good at not reading too much into things, or taking things in stride, or communicating their problems and not letting one thing sink a friendship. Even if she dropped you because you suggested she watch a movie she wound up disliking, that's more her fault than yours.

Tbh, if she really dropped the friendship because of a movie rec I'd say you're better without her.

Yes, this.

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-03 06:38 (UTC) - Expand

I hated the movie and couldn't finish it, but I can't imagine ending a friendship over someone recommending it to me. Even if it was that, I agree with the other commenters that it is on her, not you. And if someone seems like they'd like the movie, I would think recommending it is still a fine idea. I'm sorry this happened to you.

That really sucks, OP. It was probably something else going on. Would it be helpful to remember you didn't make the movie, so even if they hated it, it's not a direct reflection on you.

I'm sorry, nonny. That sucks. Chances are though, that if she was ready to end a friendship over a movie rec, she would have ended it over something equally inconsequential before long.

It may have been something else entirely that caused her to shut down. It still sucks. Hugs if wanted.

God I hope it wasn't because you recced this movie. That would be completely ridiculous.

My friend introduced me to LTROI without a moments hesitation, which was awesome of her because it's excellent. Then I introduced it to a different friend and her SO and they liked it too. (They were maybe just a tiny bit taken aback but the momentary flash of "nudity" that's in there, because Eli looks like a 13-year-old even though she isn't, which makes it kind of an "Ah! Nope!" moment. But that's nothing they would ever question me over just for reccing the movie as a whole.)

In short, anyone who would think less of someone for liking/reccing this movie is judgey AF and has laughably delicate sensibilities.

You could always just ask? I mean...at least you'd know.

I've lost budding friendships over different tastes, so you might be right. But better finding out fast don't you think? And you should definitely rec that (great!) movie again; how will you else find friends that love what you love?

this made me think of somebody i used to be friends with who i don't talk to anymore, mostly just bc we got busy after we graduated high school and stopped getting together more and more often until suddenly whoa it's been like four years since i've seen you. just life having ya drift apart ya know? BUT she would always try and recommend series and novels to me that i just had to tell her weren't my think so now i hope she doesn't think i was mega judging her for any of that 👀

anyway i offer that bc i do think it is very likely it's just life happening that might have been what's gotten between you two. and as many commenters have said already, if she's judging you that harshly for the movie rec even after you had developed a nice friendship, it might be better to have distance. either way i am sorry that the situation has got you upset :(

i think it couldn't hurt to send her some quick casual message just saying hi and wondering how she's doing bc you haven't caught up in a while. if she is going through a hard time she will probably appreciate it even if she's not ready to share details. if she is judging your movie rec, sometimes having to confront that makes you feel silly and get over it. or maybe you'll just learn she rly has just been busy! best wishes anon and take care ♡

even in the worse case that this is true, I feel like the lesson is less "never rec this again" and more "inquire about tone preferences before reccing, not just keywords"

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-03 06:15 (UTC) - Expand

Your friend's a vampire and she thinks you're on to her.

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(Anonymous) - 2019-06-03 16:07 (UTC) - Expand

My dad recced this movie to me once. Guess it's time to cut all ties with him.

Jk And this movie is great!

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