[ SECRET POST #4546 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4546 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 26 secrets from Secret Submission Post #651.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

<3 <3 <3

[(Anonymous)]

Same here but I have given up at this point, not going to happen to me.

[type_wild]

I've got a sister with a lot of the same interests as me. She lives on the other side of the country these days, but the holidays are ours and they are brilliant.

Unfortunately, near two decades of hiding my power level means that I just can't get myself to talk fandom IRL, though I know she's at least been into that and I've slipped up enough times to know that she knows.

(Original comment poster)

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you for making such a lovely-looking secret out of this, whoever made it. You rock. <3

[caerbannog]

💛

[(Anonymous)]

Damn. I'm not saying you absolutely have to share fandom interests with a partner, but I hope your boyfriend brings a lot to the table besides this.

[(Anonymous)]

He does, and I'm grateful to have someone who at least has similar interests. But sometimes I forget myself and gush about a certain fandom/character/storyline and he kind of looks awkward and gets quiet and I think "he thinks I'm weird, he's not into this like I am, fuck, I look stupid."

[(Anonymous)]

Have you asked him what he thinks at moments like this? Sometimes our insecurity and anxiety makes us think people are reacting this way even if they aren't. That said, it's nice to have a relationship where your partner doesn't think you're weird or stupid because you're passionate about something.

[(Anonymous)]

...you can be with someone who doesn't share every one of your interests though. My husband isn't into fandom, and that's fine. We've been together 16 years and it's not a big deal. We love each other and can't imagine being without one another. No one needs to bring a lot to the table if they don't share fandom interests, damn.

[cloudtrader]

I wish I had people to talk about my stuff with IRL, too. I have it a bit, but I used to be able to talk about fanfic with a few friends. Now we're either not friends anymore, or they've turned into absolute prudes.

[(Anonymous)]

Have you tried to find fandom friends in your town, OP? I mean, if you look at people's profiles they generally say what city they live in. If you find one, strike up a PM and say, hey, I live in [town] too, want to meet for coffee and squee?

[(Anonymous)]

I have thought about it, but my anxiety makes it sound terrifying. :( There used to be an awesome gaming bar in my town (which is where I met most of the friends mentioned in the secret) and our only game shop holds events for Magic and Pokemon TCG, so I feel there are people in town I'd get on with, but actually reaching out and getting involved feels so scary to me now. I keep wanting to go to one of the Pokemon tournaments but I feel like I'll make an ass of myself. In the bar I at least had alcohol to give me a bit more confidence. :(

[(Anonymous)]

Be strong, OP! I felt the same way as you for years. I'm lucky that my wife is super geeky like me, but otherwise I didn't really have a lot of people I could geek with. I also looked at the community gaming nights and things and kept thinking maybe I should go, but I kept chickening out because my anxiety was whispering horrible things in my brain. But recently I took the plunge and reached out on a couple local boards to set up a game night myself. Now I'm running my very first D&D game and we've only had one session but it's so amazing getting to be geeky with other people in person!

If Pokemon is your thing, go for it! This internet stranger believes in you, OP! Exclamation points!!

[nanslice]

I feel you. Online friends are wonderful, absolutely wonderful, but nothing beats being about to go get coffee and talk about dumb fandom bullshit with someone. I used to have that and I miss it a lot.

[(Anonymous)]

me too, OP. me, too.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP. I do have an IRL fandom friend and it's such fun to squee over fandom with someone in real life, but she moved out of state and we've both been missing each other. My best friend is very sweet and patient with all my fandom talk, but it's not quite the same thing and I do catch myself thinking, "Crap, that sounded weird", when I'm talking to her.

[(Anonymous)]

Same, nonny. Same.