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[ SECRET POST #4579 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4579 ⌋

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[Vincenzo's Plate youtube channel]

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[Terry Pratchett, Discworld]

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[David Tennant in Good Omens]

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[Black Mirror, "San Junipero"]

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[Crazyhead]

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[Love and Fortune]

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My national broadcaster have put together a special that I'm watching while drinking vodka-cola and eating pizza.

What are your thoughts on the moon landing and space exploration in general?

How do I find another unicorn that doesn't want to make more unicorns with me?

I know like one other ace person IRL and they're cool but I don't get life partner vibes.

Space exploration is an incredibly important long-term goal. At the same time, it's really expensive, and it doesn't make sense to commit to it over the short term if we're not prepared to really meaningfully exploit it and build into something larger. So I'm not sure that manned space exploration is a good near-term priority.

I don't think I will see any huge space exploration discoveries or events in my lifetime. I do love watching the ISS videos about how it is living on a space station!

Dating site?

Are unmanned flights cheaper? Because if so, I'm all for letting the robots do it.

Same. :/ I do think my 15-year old nephew will probably get to be a space tourist if he wants to.

I think 3d printing is the biggest technological breakthrough in space exploration in our time. The biggest prohibitive factor in space exploration is the cost of getting things up there. Now you only need a 3d printer and bots capable of harvesting and refining minerals from the asteroid belt and boom, you've got yourself tge Jupiter shipyards.

We're not quite there yet but I think there will be space mining at least before I die. (And i'm kinda bummed about it as an idea.)

WE'RE GONNA MINE THE MOON TO NOTHING.

Thanks everyone. It's nice to know I'm not just being a jerk in being hurt by this. I do think my husband and I have some communication issues. He is a good man just not good with emotions.

https://youtu.be/YhBBXHwEsIo

Going Postal, Making Money, and Raising Steam, in that order.

I like Moist, for what he is, and what his story does to advance the universe.
I detest the name, but I suspect we're supposed to.

Nah, you just have different tastes than the people who love him. There are a lot of ways to do Discworld, and a lot of people who only engage with certain parts of it, whether those parts are all but (for example) the wizards, or nothing but the watch books.

I am terrible at gardening, so I live vicariously through other people's posts! Especially during tomato season.

thanks! going postal is on my reading list as well!

Every time i watch videos or documentary type stuff about the moon landing, the first orbiter missions, the space station....i tear up. It's incredible. It's *amazing*.

That moment in 'The Right Stuff' when Alan Shepard is finally, actually, in space? I break down ugly crying. I would do almost anything to actually go to space, i think it's just..... The best.

They mentioned a small age difference, but didn’t say he was fifteen and she was thirty.

Telling you that you're stupid for feeling down after years of being sick is more than just "not good with emotions", op. You didn't deserve to be treated like that. Your husband needs some lessons in empathy and compassion, because that is NOT how a "good man" acts toward someone he loves.

I think it's awesome. Space is full of dust and rocks and *junk* - plenty out there to mine that won't really change a thing. Shipyard at Jupiter - SO AWESOME!

I didn't say the husband was blameless at all. It was a poor response, and pretty insensitive! What I am saying is that the insecurity existed before he put his foot right in it. It's wonderful to have support from loved ones when you feel down about yourself, but relying on validation from other people isn't healthy and people aren't able to read minds and determine what insecurity they're supposed to be comforting someone about so expect disappointment.

When you ask a partner if they still find you attractive they probably will interpret that as - hey are you going to fuck other people now because my hair is thinning and I gained weight? - so yes. Sometimes they will answer with dumbass comments like "I wouldn't even fuck Rachel who's a 10/10 porno hottie because I love you". To some people that's the epitome of romance. OP married one of those people.

Some men are as good at knowing what you want to hear as your best friend is, but the majority are just not. I've seen this kind of fuck up many times. I'm sure I've probably done it to other people myself.

I've also been where OP is with illness making me look completely different and it is distressing and awful to not see what you expect to see when you look in the mirror. It takes time and work to feel confident with the new normal, but it's something that needs conscious effort.

If my comment was more directed at what OP needs to be doing, it's because OP was the one asking above. A good couples therapist can give the husband the right tools to unpack his fuck up and work on active listening.

"I said something obviously hurtful to you and you were hurt by it? You're being stupid!"

Your👏husband👏is👏a👏giant👏piece👏of👏shit

They are all very fun!
My favorite of his are all the Sam Vimes/Night Watch books, with the Moist books and the Witches books tying for second.

All the witch books are fun as hell, too, including the Tiffany Aching books.

I don't think anyone was suggesting that she just drop her kids. But parents aren't locked in to being parents and never doing anything else - it's about managing that balance and scheduling time for yourself. Which honestly, people should be doing regardless.

DA

Communication issues are always a both sides thing. And in this case, we're only getting one side. We don't know how the issue "came up" in conversation. We don't know whether OP's paraphrasing is accurate or is heavily filtered through OP's own insecurity. We don't know how OP is bringing up her discomfort with her husband spending time with his colleague, or how he's interpreting that discomfort.

It's possible that OP's given a completely accurate account of the conversation, but it's much more likely that both parties have some bruised feelings and are filtering what the other is saying through their own issues and responding in a manner that makes things worse, and resolving those kinds of miscommunication is exactly what couples therapists are for.

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