[ SECRET POST #4666 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4666 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

So someone left you a note with the word 'smile' on it, nothing else? And you're this offended by it? Not everything has to be vindictive or ill-meaning, they might have actually been trying to do something nice.
Best response is to give a little smile (doesn't have to be real) and put it in your desk, so if someone's watching and trying to be an asshole (which I doubt, since it only says 'smile', 'smile more', or something of that kind would be the more obvious choice) it just puts them in the more uncomfortable position, and if they're being genuine it might even make their day. Kill 'em with kindness, I guess.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

In general, fuck all that shit

But I'm also more specifically confused about what distinction you draw where "smile" is fine and nice and polite but "smile more" is assholish?

SA

[(Anonymous)]

I just want to be clear that I'm not thread OP saying this, don't attribute this post to them

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

When basically every incident where someone has told you to smile involves some rude stranger interrupting your day to express their entitlement to their choice of YOUR facial expression, yes, eventually you're going to be initially offended when some unknown person demands a smile.

Look at it this way, hon. You slap a puppy enough times, it's going to learn to hate a hand, even if that hand only intends to wave with happiness. Maybe that's an extreme example, but I think it makes my point.

Don't randomly tell others to smile, unless you know them well enough to know they're okay with you demanding it. You have NO idea why they're smiling or not smiling. Even if the person means well, it's just rude.

Also, you're basically telling me to not offend someone by expressing my being offended by something they're doing to offend me. How dare I be offended at all? Really?

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

Looks like somebody hasn't been told by a shit-ton of annoying men to smile. :) SMILE :) :) :) You are never allowed to not have a smile on your face, you are a woman and so must always be there to brighten up the men's day! No dude, this shit get's real old, real quick, so a seemingly innocent note can trigger a very negative response.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

Even just on a basic level, it's a ridiculous demand. People have their own emotional autonomy. They shouldn't need to perform some specific emotion for people.

And if you really care about someone and want to get them to cheer up, telling them to smile is not an actual way to go about doing that.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

Though to be fair, I have been told to smile by a lot more older women than any men.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

what the fuck? No.

When some random tells you to smile, they may as well be telling you, "look happy." I mean that is literally what they're saying. It's really weird to think telling a stranger what mood they should publicly project is anything other than intrusive and kind of rude.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

Damn, the reaches in these replies. Getting told by your face by a stranger to smile is a totally different matter from getting a random note. I've gotten the "smile!" treatment to my face as much as any small waifish woman and I hate it. But have y'all never seen greeting cards or buttons with a smiley face that say "Smile!" on them? Those aren't there to demand anything from anyone, they're just a cutesy thing for people who feel like spreading happiness. That's how I'd interpret a note.

Holy fucking fuck nobody is violating your bodily autonomy by sending cute notes. Yall are melodramatic as shit.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

What's melodramatic is people like you screaming others are being melodramatic, while flailing as you find ways to justify a message and gesture that have no place in the office.

I am a quiet person and I generally keep to myself. I do my work, I do not go around shitting on anyone else's day, I mind my own business. I'm polite when I interact with others. I already acknowledged that it's possible the person meant well (not that you bothered to read it), but it doesn't matter. The message is rude, regardless of intent. It is not a "cutesy greeting card," it was an anonymous post-it note left in a conspicuous place so I would see it. Regardless of how you want to say otherwise, "Smile" is a command. Otherwise, it would say, "here's a smile to brighten your day" or I dunno, actually be a picture of a smiley face.

Re: Justifiability

[(Anonymous)]

+10000000