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What're the exasperating habits of your family and friends? Share 'em here! I'll go first: my sister will act extremely upset or sad or angry at something I say or do. Then, when I either apologize or defend myself, she'll claim that OF COURSE she was just PRETENDING to be upset and obviously you're just tooooo overemotional nobody could POOOOSSIBLY have taken that seriously!
Everybody in the family goes along with it and finds it hilarious how she "winds me up". I am soooooooo tired of this bullcrap. WE ARE BOTH OVER 30!

My dad tells everyone to smile and pats people on the back. My sister downplays anyone's pain or difficulty and insists it isn't that bad and thy should look positively. But also she's dealt with worse of the same thing and handled it so everyone should handle it like her.

Stop apologizing or trying to explain, and ignore her.

nayrt but this. The only way to win that game is not to play.

My dad mansplains everything and sees everything as a problem that only he can solve...only most of the time nobody asked him for advice, he's kinda bad at offering practical solutions for stuff, and he feels totally free to offer advice in areas where he's got zero expertise. *sigh*

My dad is kind of similar. He thinks he knows best and knows everything, but if you happen to talk about something he doesn't know about, he'll get really quiet and sulk like a child. It's a little infuriating.

I've been off work for three weeks, recovering from a surgical procedure. The doctor stated that I would need to be off work for 6 weeks, at which point I should be well enough to return, barring any complications.

I made the mistake of telling my parents about the procedure. Their question, every day after the first week, has been "are you back to work yet?" They know the recovery timeline I was given, but they've decided I'm malingering because I'm following my doctor's directions for recovery.

(And no, right-to-work legislation isn't a thing in my area, it's illegal for employers to fire people for a doctor-supported medical condition, and I'm in a strong union that would eat them alive if they tried to stealth-fire with a semiplausible excuse.)

Do they know you're not in any trouble with losing your job? I know my parents are very bad for not taking time off work when they're ill, and listening to their doc's advice to take it easy. Most of it is because they grew up without any security in their jobs, maybe your parents are the same?
It doesn't make it any less annoying of course, but they could just be worried?

If it were me, I'd probably just change the subject any time they brought it up. Just in a way where they know you aren't about to have the same sort of conversation again and again.

Yes, they know I'm not at risk of losing my job, and no, they've never had to worry about job security. They're retired now, but they've both taken extended periods off for their own health issues in the past without any trouble.

I do change the subject, and have explicitly requested they stop pestering me about it, but it doesn't change the fact that literally the first question they ask when they call me is "are you back to work yet". Not "how are you feeling" or "how was your day", "are you back to work yet".

79 nayrt but you'd be well within your rights to call them out on their messed up priorities. Or just end the conversation if they won't knock it off.

My mom sometimes can't hear me if I talk at a normal volume but if I repeat myself the tiniest bit louder she will immediately accuse me of "screaming". I can't get the volume of my voice right for her.

My dad's the worst at this. He knows he's going deaf but any time he can't hear what we say he'll start a whole lecture about the importance of speaking clearly... He'll try to act like he's giving us a life lesson, but he's the only one who can't hear what we're saying.

Similar but different: My dad refuses to admit that he's hard of hearing (he is + he doesn't listen to people - bad combo) so every time he doesn't understand what I'm saying, after the third time of him asking in a row, I will actually shout at him.

My mom can talk about herself for a full hour without asking about how anyone else in the room is doing.

It's like we have the same mom! *sad high fives you*

x3
Mine loves to make it a competition on top of that.

Most of them want to talk early in the morning. Only my little sister and I prefer peace and quiet in the morning. Also, my mom is super protective of me. She doesn't like it when I go out to clubs or concerts because it involves me getting on the freeway and I'm scared of driving, but I'm working through that fear in therapy and part of overcoming that fear is to actually, you know, do it. She also wishes I wouldn't talk to some of my (thirty-year-old) friends because they smoke pot.

This reminds me of a week long argument I had with my sister about milk when we were like ten... I can totally see how this would get on your nerves. There's only so far you can play a joke, and doing it over and over again is like playing the boy who plays wolf.

My mom and I disagree on most political and social issues, so if the conversation starts going in that direction I've found the best approach is to be blunt and say I don't want to talk about it because it's going to be uncomfortable.

But it still doesn't always work because she'll say "ok" and act like we're talking about something else, and then a minute later butt back in with "Can I just say one thing?" And then immediately just says the thing about the topic I asked her not to talk about without actually waiting for me to answer yes or no.

I'd rather she just speak her bullshit from the start instead of pretending to respect my requests.

My mother, who is SEVENTY FUCKING YEARS OLD does this thing where she acts like a child and wants to know if you're mad at her for this or that. It's always phrased very manipulatively with some trivial reason, as if you're the asshole for treating her so badly over something so petty.

"Oooohhhh, you didn't call me last week, is it because you didn't like the dessert I made you?????"

"You haven't visited my new house, is it because you thought my new pants made me look faaaaaat?"

Not exact examples, but like that. Note: I don't call her or visit her because she's a narcissistic crybaby who whines when she doesn't get her way, so fuck her.

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