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Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

What're the exasperating habits of your family and friends? Share 'em here! I'll go first: my sister will act extremely upset or sad or angry at something I say or do. Then, when I either apologize or defend myself, she'll claim that OF COURSE she was just PRETENDING to be upset and obviously you're just tooooo overemotional nobody could POOOOSSIBLY have taken that seriously!
Everybody in the family goes along with it and finds it hilarious how she "winds me up". I am soooooooo tired of this bullcrap. WE ARE BOTH OVER 30!

Re: Exasperating Habits

[philstar22]

My dad tells everyone to smile and pats people on the back. My sister downplays anyone's pain or difficulty and insists it isn't that bad and thy should look positively. But also she's dealt with worse of the same thing and handled it so everyone should handle it like her.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

Stop apologizing or trying to explain, and ignore her.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt but this. The only way to win that game is not to play.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

My dad mansplains everything and sees everything as a problem that only he can solve...only most of the time nobody asked him for advice, he's kinda bad at offering practical solutions for stuff, and he feels totally free to offer advice in areas where he's got zero expertise. *sigh*

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

I've been off work for three weeks, recovering from a surgical procedure. The doctor stated that I would need to be off work for 6 weeks, at which point I should be well enough to return, barring any complications.

I made the mistake of telling my parents about the procedure. Their question, every day after the first week, has been "are you back to work yet?" They know the recovery timeline I was given, but they've decided I'm malingering because I'm following my doctor's directions for recovery.

(And no, right-to-work legislation isn't a thing in my area, it's illegal for employers to fire people for a doctor-supported medical condition, and I'm in a strong union that would eat them alive if they tried to stealth-fire with a semiplausible excuse.)

Re: Exasperating Habits

[greghousesgf]

My mom sometimes can't hear me if I talk at a normal volume but if I repeat myself the tiniest bit louder she will immediately accuse me of "screaming". I can't get the volume of my voice right for her.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

My mom can talk about herself for a full hour without asking about how anyone else in the room is doing.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

Most of them want to talk early in the morning. Only my little sister and I prefer peace and quiet in the morning. Also, my mom is super protective of me. She doesn't like it when I go out to clubs or concerts because it involves me getting on the freeway and I'm scared of driving, but I'm working through that fear in therapy and part of overcoming that fear is to actually, you know, do it. She also wishes I wouldn't talk to some of my (thirty-year-old) friends because they smoke pot.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

This reminds me of a week long argument I had with my sister about milk when we were like ten... I can totally see how this would get on your nerves. There's only so far you can play a joke, and doing it over and over again is like playing the boy who plays wolf.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

My mom and I disagree on most political and social issues, so if the conversation starts going in that direction I've found the best approach is to be blunt and say I don't want to talk about it because it's going to be uncomfortable.

But it still doesn't always work because she'll say "ok" and act like we're talking about something else, and then a minute later butt back in with "Can I just say one thing?" And then immediately just says the thing about the topic I asked her not to talk about without actually waiting for me to answer yes or no.

I'd rather she just speak her bullshit from the start instead of pretending to respect my requests.

Re: Exasperating Habits

[(Anonymous)]

My mother, who is SEVENTY FUCKING YEARS OLD does this thing where she acts like a child and wants to know if you're mad at her for this or that. It's always phrased very manipulatively with some trivial reason, as if you're the asshole for treating her so badly over something so petty.

"Oooohhhh, you didn't call me last week, is it because you didn't like the dessert I made you?????"

"You haven't visited my new house, is it because you thought my new pants made me look faaaaaat?"

Not exact examples, but like that. Note: I don't call her or visit her because she's a narcissistic crybaby who whines when she doesn't get her way, so fuck her.

What are favorite feel good youtube channels?

[(Anonymous)]

I need some more.

Re: What are favorite feel good youtube channels?

[philstar22]

Critter room. Kitten lady. Col and Marmalade. Hosico.

Re: What are favorite feel good youtube channels?

[kaijinscendre]

Hope For Paws. I can watch him rescue dogs all day.

Re: What are favorite feel good youtube channels?

[(Anonymous)]

Anything involving Rachel and/or Jun. I literally just watched them set up a Roomba.

Re: What are favorite feel good youtube channels?

[(Anonymous)]

Snake Discovery. Charlie Berens. Bernadette Banner.

Advice

[philstar22]

Had my surgery today. Was interesting since they turned out to have rescheduled me for later in the day without telling me. but, anyway.

Post-op, I'm in a huge amount of pain. level 10 pain. The doctor only prescribed 100 mg of tramadol every 6 hours, and that isn't cutting it at all. I'm going to call his office in the morning and see if I can get something stronger.

But is there anything I can do tonight to lessen the pain in my foot even a little so I can sleep? Already took 1000mg ibuprofen.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Ice it. Elevate it as well if that is okay. not sure what kind of surgery you have.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Warmth works well for me when relieving my knee joint pain - heating pad, hot water bottle, Thermacare. I don't know if you have a TENS (Transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation) device readily available, but that worked for some types of pain for my mom. Acupressure works for some people. Caffeine has been shown, in some cases, to boost pain relievers.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

http://bcfootandankle.com/surgery/at-home-after-surgery/

See if you have any 24h pharmacies you can call to ask for advice.
I know Tramadol is an antiinflamitory, like advil, so I wouldn't recommend more ibuprofen unless otherwise specified. I think Ibuprofen/tramadol will do best for pain, (my mother's allergic to anti-inflammatories and they usually recommend those first so we have to work around them) since it's reducing the swelling in your foot. The pain might even be worse within the next day or two, so I would recommend calling the doc. The only thing higher would be an opioid. Tylenol-3's are the least potent and contain codeine, (you might be able to ask for some over the counter, but I'm probably wrong) so try those first if you can. Otherwise you might have to rely on Percocet's, which contain oxycodone, which is highly addictive.

Other than ice, I'm not sure you'll get much pain relief right away. When I got surgery last year I couldn't sleep for the first day or so. Just try to rest up best you can, and keep your mind away from the pain with distractions if you can! I hope you feel better soon!

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Be cautious in how you ask. Doctors are very wary these days of drug seeking behavior.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

a couple years ago when I had severe back pain over a holiday when I couldn't get in anywhere to see anyone, the nurse-on-call suggested taking tylenol and ibuprofin together - specifically tylenol plus any ibuprofin. you've already gone way over prescription dose on the one so if you have any tylenol or can get someone to bring you some, that might help.

honest to god I thought for a long time that was a huge no-no but turns out it's safe, doctor recommended, and works.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Take some Tylenol (Paracetamol) as well. You can go up to 4000mg per day.