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⌈ Secret Post #4711 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I think my friend is at risk of having another suicidal episode. For context I'm over 200 miles away so we're not exactly geographically close but a few weeks ago I stayed up half the night on a weekend exchanging messages with other people (scattered around the country) trying to find her because she switched off her phone and was reported missing to the police by her mum. She was found by a kind woman walking her dog early the next morning. I was so wiped out I basically passed out at 4am and didn't wake until 6 hours later and I still felt guilty for not staying awake.

But she's been posting more statuses about "people who I care about hate me" and I know she means this absolute loser of a guy who was mentally abusive and basically was the reason she was driven to what she did last time. I have never wished ill on anyone before, not even my worse enemy, but it's getting increasingly difficult not to wish this guy would just drop dead. There's some other stuff I can't really elaborate on that he did before he met my friend (basically, the police were involved) and if I were my friend I wouldn't have touched the guy with a bargepole once I knew but I also understand the desire to forgive and not punish people for past mistakes. From my point of view: not this guy. All my goodwill toward him is fucking gone.

I just don't know what to do. I speak to my friend and tell her she's wanted but sometimes it feels like even if she wants to, she won't listen to me, her mum, my sister, another couple of her close friends or anyone because we're not this one dickhead who messed with her mind.

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

That's terrible, it makes it more difficult because it's next to impossible to convince someone that a relationship is detrimental to them if they don't want to see it. Like if he drove her to this sort of extreme before, it's what he is doing in the now that proves him to be a complete dick.
I'm sorry you're friend is going through such a hard time. I hope things get easier for her, and you or someone can get through to her that people do care. Just keep trying, be there for her, I'm not sure there's much else to do.

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you anon. I think all I can do is try be there for her. She is in therapy and I thought it was working in that she seemed to be letting go of this guy. But I know from experience that relapses can happen. It's a long healing process. I just hate to see her think nobody cares just because of one person.

The thing is the guy wasn't even nice some of the time from what I can gather. Often abusers have "nice" moments but the way she talks he was constantly belittled by him!

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

My sympathies, OP. I think the best you can do is encourage your friend to seek therapy, because you're right - you can't talk her down off this ledge, it's above your pay grade. I imagine there's probably some serious limits to how much sympathy you're willing to extend to her for continuing to wallow in misery over some asshole, and I'm 100% with you on that.

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you anon. As I said to anon above she is in therapy and I thought it was working but I guess it's a long process but it's still frustrating to see he still has a hold over her.

As someone with their own mental health struggles (though not as severe as hers) I do try to keep extending my sympathy but you're right, when someone is a complete megadick (he seriously has no redeeming qualities at all) it becomes difficult. But for her sake I try to keep that to myself unless it's appropriate, like I will tell her up front I think he's a horrible human being.