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⌈ Secret Post #4787⌋

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A question about drinking....

[tabaqui]

In movies or on tv, you often see a person who is an alcoholic (but sober), with a bf/gf who drinks, and they're hanging out and they kiss after the person has had a drink.

Is that something that happens a lot in real life? That seems...really challenging to the person trying to stay sober.

Re: A question about drinking....

[(Anonymous)]

Like a recovering alcoholic being in a relationship with someone who drinks?
Eh, I'd think that would happen very little in real life, at least in healthy relationships, It seems very cruel and insensitive to drink in the presence of someone who trying to to get over an addiction. I'm sure it does happen sometimes, but generally that'd just be asking for a relapse.

Re: A question about drinking....

[tabaqui]

Yes.
Right? It seems like just something that I wouldn't want to do to a partner who was in recovery/an addict.

Re: A question about drinking....

[(Anonymous)]

I guess it depends on the people and where they're at with their sobriety. I personally think it's strange to expect a partner who doesn't have a problem with alcohol to never have even a glass of wine on a night out because they're in a relationship with someone who can't stop at one.

My uncle is fine around other people drinking. He doesn't go to bars anymore, but he goes to weddings, restaurants, parties, work functions, etc. They have wine at their house. Wine was never his drink of choice, and it doesn't bother him if my aunt brings it out for company. He's been sober for a long ass time now.

It's such a common social thing that you can't avoid it entirely as an adult unless you seclude yourself like a hermit. You just avoid doing things that trigger you specifically, like my uncle avoids bars and the racetrack, and try to get on with your life as normal.

My aunt and uncle aren't big on PDA so idk about kissing, but you can smell it on people's breath if they're even talking to you. If you're still that shaky on your sobriety, it's probably a bad situation already.

Re: A question about drinking....

[tabaqui]

Oh, yeah, I don't think the whole 'you can't drink around me ever' is so much a thing, but the deal where the non-addict takes a big swig of alcohol, and then they and their addict-partner start kissing seems just.....

Really weird and wrong to me. Kinda mean, almost, or like - tempting fate.