[ SECRET POST #4795 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4795 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


Spoilers and CWs ahead!



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02. [SPOILERS for The Good Place]



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03. [SPOILERS for Sanditon]



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04. [SPOILERS for Guilded Age]



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05. [SPOILERS for Star Trek: Picard]



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06. [WARNING for discussion of rape]

[Graceling]


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07. [WARNING for discussion of substance abuse]



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08. [WARNING for discussion of sexual assault]



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09. [WARNING for discussion of abuse/assault]



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10. [WARNING for discussion of incest/underage/etc. Not the main topic but figured it might start discussion]
























Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #686.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

For me the context matters greatly.

A 30 year old happening to fall for an 18 year old and it's the first time this has occurred for the 30 year old? A little odd to me, but not something that would immediately set-off warning bells(I'd probably still vet the individual heavily though, just to be safe).

But a 30 year old who has dated no one BUT 18 year olds? No, that's a huge fucking red flag and I would absolutely try to stop someone like that getting anywhere NEAR any 18 year old. That's not someone looking for an equal partner, that's someone looking for a victim to dupe.

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

But a 30 year old who has dated no one BUT 18 year olds? No, that's a huge fucking red flag and I would absolutely try to stop someone like that getting anywhere NEAR any 18 year old. That's not someone looking for an equal partner, that's someone looking for a victim to dupe.

I generally agree with this. I definitely agree that it's a massive redflag and I would feel pretty safe in assuming that person was Bad News.

Even in this situation, though, I think I'd feel the need to be very careful how I approached it - presuming I was a person in the 18-year-old's life who might have some influence over them. Would I want to discourage or obstruct their relationship with this bad-news person? Absolutely. But I would also want to be as respectful of the eighteen-year-old's autonomy as I could be.

I definitely would not "condone" the relationship in this case. Which is to say I would not in any way promote it or treat it as a positive.

But in the end, I think I'd probably end up taking more of a highly watchful, "I'm always here if you need help or support," "please for the love of god be careful" approach. Because what else is there to do? Give the young person an ultimatum? Cut them off? Yeah, that's gonna go real well.