[ SECRET POST #4814 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4814 ⌋

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Re: Also related to 8--

[(Anonymous)]

I used to like primarily male singer/songwriters/bands. At the time I thought it was because men expressing their feelings in such an emotional medium felt like it played against gender stereotype, whereas women doing the same felt like it played into gender stereotype. And there may have been a degree of truth to that.

But I think it was also just that I processed emotion a lot more like a guy (repress, act like you don’t care), so I couldn’t (didn’t want to) relate to women being sad and forlorn and pining and all of that. As a teen and young-twenty-something, it seemed weak to me. So there absolutely was an element of internalized sexism in it, for me.

However, I’m in my thirties now, and have come to love a lot of female singer/songwriters. I like some who are very soft and forlorn and some who are hard and edgy and everything in between. Give me the wrath of You Oughtta Know, and the jaded swagger of If It Makes You Happy, and the almost childlike vulnerability of Breathe Me, and the wilting, depressive ardor of Video Games. Give me the flattened affect of Aimee Mann and the dramatic girlishness of Taylor Swift and the aggressive oomph of Pink and whatever the hell Billie Eilish is doing - gimmie that for sure.

That said, it's also okay to just prefer male musicians and go with it. Just because internalized sexism was a significant factor in why I "couldn't connect" with female musicians, doesn't mean that's a reason for every woman who prefers male musicians.