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(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I mean, sure, maybe you did it wrong, but it's also possible you just don't like it, and that's fine. It's okay to not like things.

(I personally love it, so I'm not trying to bash it or anything, but I realize that everyone is different and likes/dislikes different things.)

(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)
yep exactly this. there is a massive possibility something was done wrong, or even done not-quite-right for your body. BUT. there is an equal possibility that your body can't handle or doesn't want anal and that's okay.

experimentation is for finding out both what you like and what you can handle. making sure it's done safely and correctly is step one, once you verify that you're comfortable, lubed up, prepped, have enough foreplay, the right size penetrator, no emotional baggage...if, after all of that, it's still unpleasant, then receiving is not for you and that's fine.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, it's always hard to get it right on the first try. A big part is making sure both parties know what they're doing. Obviously it's not going to be as good for women as it is for men since we don't have prostates, that doesn't mean it can't feel good, but yeah.

Personally I have an aversion to sex, I'm not a fan of it in general, and have never really had a successful time. Even when I went to my gynaecologist when she checked my pleasure areas all I felt was a vague discomfort and that was it. I'm not sexually inclined so it's no skin off my back.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Is that a thing? Gynecologists checking 'pleasure areas'? I'm pretty sure that's not a thing. And even if it was a thing, not getting turned on after getting poked during an exam doesn't mean knack shit.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
That should say *jack*! Damn autocorrect...

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 12:29 am (UTC)(link)
I thought they were just using "pleasure areas" as a euphemism for vagina, not that the gynecologist was specifically checking erogenous zones or something, but who knows.

I agree that not being turned on by a gynecological exam doesn't mean anything, but it's also totally fine if sex isn't their thing.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 12:33 am (UTC)(link)
ayrt

Sorry I meant the cervix I think, same way doctors check your prostate. She made the comment that people usually jump and my reaction was kinda different than normal. Simply because it's a bundle of nerves that creates those sensations. It's not about getting turned on, but a natural response your body has to those neves being touched.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 12:37 am (UTC)(link)
People usually jump because it feels bad, not good. Having your cervix prodded is painful a lot of the time (obviously there are exceptions). It sounds like you maybe have fewer nerve endings in that area than most people or something, but if you're fine with it, it's all good. :)

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 02:15 am (UTC)(link)
wait what no

poking the cervix tends to result in anything from mild discomfort to pain. the cervix is NOT a pleasure center in any sense, don't let hentai try to convince you otherwise.

it may be odd to not get an instant OW GET OFF when the gyno pokes your cervix but that has exactly zero bearing on pleasure. if you don't experience arousal from g-spot or clitorial stimnulation, that's very very different.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 04:24 am (UTC)(link)
Stop watching hentai, getting jabbed in the cervix is not supposed to be pleasurable

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 04:41 am (UTC)(link)
Did you mean your clitoris? Your cervix may have been checked, but a lot of people find having their cervix touched (or swabbed, like for a pap smear) uncomfortable, but I wouldn't think most people jump.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-12 11:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Unless you have a prostate gland to stimulate receiving anal isn't super pleasurable. There are a lot of nerve endings around the anus but inside the rectum isn't anything to stimulate on bodies without the gland. Stimulating the prostate is really incredible and is the male g-spot but for those of us without it anal isn't all that.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
I beg to differ. :P

I'm a cis woman and anal is insanely pleasurable for me, and vaginal penetration doesn't feel good at all to me. I've joked that my nerve endings are wired backwards, but according to my doctor, there's a tiny bit of truth to that...things are generally in the same place, but different people have minor variations in their anatomy.

So, yeah, I get that for a lot of women, it doesn't feel good, but there are some of us (I've talked to others who feel the same way I do) that it feels amazing for, so saying "it's not pleasurable if you don't have a prostate" isn't always true.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 01:59 am (UTC)(link)
I'm semi-similar except that I do have nerves in my vagina, but almost too much. I feel pleasure there, but I also feel pain with any touch. Actually I feel a certain level of pain most of the time, and then pain increases dramatically with any insertion of anything. I can touch the outside, but that's it.

Anal touching and touching the area between the anal area and vagina area are the things that can turn me on without causing pain. I can get off from that or from straight fic/porn without any physical stimulation.

No partners and haven't tried since I can't imagine a guy or girl being able to handle all that.

But just, honestly, everyone's body is different. Generalities don't really work.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 02:17 am (UTC)(link)
yep they call it the "cul-de-sac" - a spot opposite the clitoris that may share some of the same nerve endings and thus, in some clitoris-havers, the equivalent of an A-spot. I have one. It's great, I love it.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
I think this is an individual thing a bit? Some of us women have nerves there. I've never had anal sex, but I've been obsessed with it for a long time. And when I orgasm I feel it there too every time. I definitely have nerves there. Just thinking about anal sex makes me get turned on specifically back there.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 04:42 am (UTC)(link)
in my case i can't stand the thought of anything going up my butt, so i'm incapable of relaxing enough to let anything go up my butt without maximum discomfort. also i'm a germophobe so all i can think about when it comes to anal is poop.

(Anonymous) 2020-03-13 04:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Anal's great with...
- anal lube
- plenty of arousal (orgasm before you try anal if you can)
- more anal lube
- taking it s l o w
- additional touching of other erogenous zones (clitoris or penis depending on what you've got)
- following the above, stroking your anus can also help get you relaxed and anally excited
- did you lube? more anal lube.

But like someone else said, it's possible you just may not enjoy it. My wife loves it, but I'm (cisfem) not interested in it.
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