[ SECRET POST #4840 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4840 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Caligula Effect]


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[Binging with Babish (youtube)]


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[Wang Yibo as Lan Wangji in The Untamed]


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[Star Trek: Deep Space Nine]


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[Star Trek Voyager]


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[Fights Break Sphere, aka Battle Through the Heavens]












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Comments

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

How can you tell whether you're feeling sympathy or empathy? Everyone always explains it as "empathy is when you're feeling what the other person's feeling, and sympathy is when you're not feeling what they're feeling but you're sad that they're feeling sad," but I don't know how to tell the difference between those two things. Do they feel different?

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

You're not alone. I don't get it either.

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

For me it's kinda like, sympathy is being able to imagine what it looks like from someone else's shoes. Empathy is knowing what it's like to be in them or very similar ones, and feel the same or very similar feelings.

There's a lot of things I wouldn't claim I'm empathetic to, because like, claiming empathy with say, a victim of some horrible experience I've never lived through feels like I'm cheapening their experience and/or aggrandizing mine. I don't, and probably morally shouldn't, claim to know what it's like to be bullied, for example. On the other hand, someone who works extensively with bullying victims and has experienced it the situations first hand, would more easily be able to claim that what they feel is empathy and not sympathy.

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

So say Person A is sad because they are grieving, Person B feeling sympathy would be feeling bad for Person A because of their loss, while Person B feeling empathy would be grieving alongside Person A, as if the loss was Person B's own.

Or say Person A is angry because of a wrong done to them, Person B feeling sympathy would be feeling upset for Person A because of what happened, while Person B feeling empathy would be angry alongside Person A, as if the wrong had been done to Person B.

I don't know if that helps.

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

They can feel different, but it's not like there's a sharp divide and you always know which you're feeling at any given moment. It's usually not necessary to parse the feelings.

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

Sympathy is relating to the person and understanding how hard such a situation must be, Empathy is understanding what it's like to be in that position.

Basically you send someone your sympathies after a trauma because you don't know what/can't imagine the pain they've went through, but want to acknowledge that what they're going through is hard/unpleasant.
You don't send them empathies because that's announcing that you know exactly what they must feel like. You empathize by feeling and responding in like to the emotion they're expressing.

Empathy can be described as a sixth sense, it basically means you 'catch' the feelings from another person, even if you don't know what they've been through. The way a laugh, cry, or even a yawn can transfer from one person to another. It's when you see someone reacting in an emotional way and you can feel their emotion because it is apparent to you.

I'm not sure if this is at all coherent or makes any sense, but I hope it helps.

Re: A Question You're Afraid Is Too Dumb/Offensive to Ask

[(Anonymous)]

Empathy involves being able to imagine yourself in the other person's shoes rather than just thinking it's unfortunate that bad things happened and they feel bad. When people say a person lacks empathy, they mean that person is unable or unwilling to imagine what it would be like if the bad thing that happened to someone else happened to them (and may in fact refuse to acknowledge that bad things can happen to them at all).

You do NOT have to actually have experienced the same bad thing or actually know what it's like to be in the other person's position and feeling what they feel in order to feel empathy. It's about being able to imagine yourself in a similar position and feeling emotions that conjures up. Sympathy doesn't really involve any imagination, no "What if this had happened to me?" thought experiment.