[ SECRET POST #4846 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4846 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What should I watch (or read)

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, if she's purposefully making your relationship with your daughter difficult in her own selfishness (which is what it sounds like by your description) then break up with her. Never choose the one who makes you choose, they're always the one in the wrong when it comes to situations like this.

I'm sorry you had to go through with this, and I'm sorry your girlfriend is making things difficult between you and your daughter.

Re: What should I watch (or read)

[(Anonymous)]

... how is the girlfriend being selfish? From the sound of it, the daughter wasn't in the picture when anon and the girlfriend started dating. It sounds like anon didn't decide she wanted to get the daughter back until after she and the girlfriend had been together for a while.

Re: What should I watch (or read)

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT - It doesn't matter if the daughter was in the picture when they started dating. The daughter is in the picture now. The only mature thing to do is to recognize that and respect it.

If the GF wants out, that's 100% fine. But trying to influence OP to have less of a relationship with her child is really not cool. Yes, it sucks when an unforeseen elements throws a wrench into the works of a relationship, but if that unforeseen element is someone's kid, then you pretty much just have to either accept how it's gonna be now, or break it off. Trying to negotiate on your own behalf is pretty much always going to be selfish if what you want conflicts with your partner's relationship with their child.

Re: What should I watch (or read)

[(Anonymous)]

It's selfish to act outwardly resentful about a child living with her mother, in her own home. It's selfish to not want your partner's child to live full time in their own home. It's selfish to want to live with your partner, but want to exclude your partner's child from your partner's life. All of those things are selfish. The order in which it happened is irrelevant.

Re: What should I watch (or read)

[(Anonymous)]

OP didn’t say she sent her kid away because she didn’t want her; she sent her away because she couldn’t take her daughter with her to a psych ward. Once OP got out and got her shit together enough to take care of her kid full time, she wanted her back. Kid probably missed her. OP didn’t sound like she changed her mind about not wanting her kid around, she’s just able to care for her again. Now if OP never told her GF “once I work all my shit out, I’m gonna try and get full custody of my daughter again,” that’s not cool. But GF hinting that it’s her or the kid is a dick move and the kid comes first.