[ SECRET POST #4875 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4875 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

so you were trying to date people who wanted you to be exclusive with them, and got annoyed when they got mad at you for not adhering to that?

my dude, they're not the asshole here.

if you know that you don't care for monogamy then don't try to date people who want monogamy, ffs. it's that simple.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

No, I'm just reacting to the OP's apparent opinion that even thinking about cheating is just as bad as doing it. People who think like this tend to be very suspicious and controlling in relationships. Monogamy isn't important to me but if it's important to my partner I'll respect that. If I say I won't cheat, I won't. The absolute worst though is a paranoid control freak who can't trust that and is constantly trying to find ways to police thoughts.

Cheating is an action. Not a thought. Not even a temptation. If you're tempted to cheat and you resist and don't do it, you're not a cheater and shouldn't be treated like one.

[(Anonymous)]

imo theres a big difference between

1) experoencing desire/temptation but never really considering
2) seriously thinking about whether itd be worth it to cheat on your partner/whether you could get away with it
3) a fictional story arc about 2 with great self-congratulatory moral fanfare

the first is normal, the second is...at the very least selfish and disrespectful if youve made a committment and know it would hurt your partner, and the third is just annoying and gross

seemed to me op was mostly talking about 3 fwiw

[(Anonymous)]

Even 2 means you're still not a cheater because you didn't actually do it. You have to cheat with another actual person to be a cheater. What you do in your head alone will never cross a line, because no actual real-world harm is done.

It's a potentially interesting story depending on how well-written it is. It doesn't fit in a romance, because romance is kind of by definition idealized, but it could be some good realism.